For those of you who know my mom, Doreen, you’re already aware that she’s awesome.
For the rest of you, I’ve no choice but to educate you. 🙂
My mom’s cracked tooth
My mom recently had a cracked tooth because of some problems with her dental fillings. Due to other complications, she needed to get her tooth extracted.
So, just a few weeks ago, she went for the operation.
Here’s what her jaw looked like immediately after the procedure:
She could hardly talk.
She couldn’t eat solid food.
She was in horrible pain.
And the worst part: Her dentist told her that it would take three months for her to recover fully.
The first night after the operation, things were bad.
Her gums bled for more than an hour, and she used up an entire bag of cotton wool to stop the bleeding. She told me the next day that she was afraid of passing out due to the blood loss!
The toughest woman in the world
Despite all this, she was back to work the next day.
As the manager of Genesis Gym, she was replying emails and running the show as usual.
She also continued writing her second book, The Happy Mom, which is scheduled to be published later this year.
She even cleaned the house and cooked a delicious dinner.
(The rest of the family told her to take it easy, but she just wouldn’t listen!)
The most amazing thing: She was cheerful as always, and never once complained.
Yup, that’s my mom.
She has an incredible sense of duty, and she’s continually thinking of others.
Here are four life lessons I’ve learned from my mom through these events:
1. Focus on other people, not your own pain.
There will always be pain in our lives: physical discomfort, broken relationships, financial concerns, an uncertain future.
But when we focus on the needs of others, we begin to realize that the world doesn’t revolve around us and our pain. Life is far more meaningful when we get beyond ourselves.
2. Happiness is a choice.
Clichéd as it might sound, you can always choose your attitude, no matter what your circumstances.
Whether or not you can talk or eat solid food, my mom has proven that happiness isn’t just an emotion. It’s an intentional decision.
3. It’s in the ordinary that you prepare yourself for the extraordinary.
Her whole life, my mom has been training—in the most mundane of circumstances—to be joyful, loving and tough-minded.
Doing the laundry, paying the bills, cooking for the family, fulfilling responsibilities and obligations… these are the kinds of things that have made my mom who she is today.
It’s in the ordinary and everyday that she’s prepared herself for the extraordinary. It’s an excellent reminder for us to never despise the ordinary.
4. Know that this too shall pass.
Everything—whether it’s good or bad—is temporary. After all, life itself is temporary. Whatever you’re going through, it’s wise to remember that this too shall pass.
Stay committed to your purpose. Stay dedicated to serving people. Stay focused on the process.
Only then will you be able to choose joy, even in the most terrible circumstances.
I’m thankful to my mom for teaching me to live tougher, stronger and better. I’m inspired by her example, and I hope that you are too.
Mom, this post is dedicated to you. 🙂