Screen Time for Teens: Get Your Teens to Unplug by Applying These 4 Principles

Are you concerned that your teens spend too much time on their phones?

There’s nothing wrong with teens using digital devices, but excessive use is a problem.

The data shows that many teens spend up to 9 hours a day on various devices.

So you’re not alone if you have concerns about your teens’ screen time.

Of course, it’s essential to first understand where to draw the line between “normal” and unhealthy smartphone use.

In this article, I’ll discuss what excessive screen time looks like and how you can help your teens manage their screen time.

Why too much screen time can be unhealthy

Research suggests that too much screen time can lead to changes in the brain and body.

The following are some of the possible effects of excessive screen time:

• Changes in brain development. During this stage of life, your teenager’s brain is developing rapidly. Excessive screen time can hinder this growth.
• Lack of sleep. Light emitted by screens can interfere with the release of a sleep hormone called melatonin. Poor sleep can affect your teen’s mood, focus, and health.
• Poor eyesight. Too much screen time increases the risk of eye strain and vision problems. Examples include eye fatigue, blurred vision, and irritated or burning eyes.
• Neck and back pain. Long hours spent craning their necks over their devices can contribute to poor posture in teens. This can lead to neck and back pain.
• Neglecting important responsibilities. Some teenagers neglect their important tasks. For instance, they might not study, finish their homework, or help with the household chores.
• Mood changes: Many teenagers use their devices to cope with stress or unpleasant emotions. They might even feel anxious or irritated when they don’t have their phones with them.

Of course, this doesn’t mean digital devices are inherently bad for teens. It all depends on how your teens use them.

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What is a “normal” amount of screen time for teens?

How much time should teens be spending on their devices?

The general guideline is that teens should spend no more than two hours a day on screens. But research shows that most teenagers don’t follow this recommendation.

A good way to gauge if your teenagers are using their phones too much is by observing their behavior. Look for signs of excessive smartphone use, which include the following:

• Always having their phones with them wherever they are
• Experiencing irritability, anxiousness, or restlessness when they’re without their phones
• Getting lower grades and missing homework and assignment deadlines
• Avoiding face-to-face social interactions with friends and family
• Getting insufficient sleep

If you spot these signs, it’s best to work with your teenager to limit his or her screen time.

How to limit your teenager’s screen time

Taking away your teen’s phone entirely can be tempting, but this can backfire.

Doing so may cause your teens to become rebellious or find ways to use their devices without your knowledge. It might also affect your relationship with them.

Instead, try the following strategies to limit your teenagers’ screen time:

Principle #1: Establish clear rules and guidelines

Setting screen time rules for teens is foundational.

Find a time to sit down and discuss these guidelines with your teenagers. It also helps to explain the reasoning behind such boundaries.

At the same time, you can also set consequences for breaking these house rules. Make sure that these consequences are related to the misbehavior.

For example, let’s say your teens keep using their devices instead of completing their homework. If so, you might need to keep your teens’ phones in another room until they finish their assignment.

You can expect some resistance from your teens. But try to be consistent and firm, while also taking the time to understand the situation from your teens’ perspective.

Here are some tips to keep in mind when setting boundaries for smartphone use:

Set time limits

Discuss how long your teens can be on their phones each day.

Instead of making a drastic cut, you can encourage them to gradually reduce their screen time.

Additionally, you can get your teens to track their screen time. Most phones have a built-in feature that allows users to do this.

Create screen-free zones

Designate screen-free zones in your home. One such zone might be the dining table.

During family meals, encourage your teens to put their devices away and join in the conversation at the dining table.

Establish tech-free times

Setting rules related to tech-free times can also help teens control their mobile phone usage.

Here are some examples;

• Put away all devices at least an hour before bed
• Avoid using your phone while doing schoolwork
• Don’t use your phone during family gatherings

Principle #2: Encourage alternative activities

Many teens use their devices to keep themselves entertained.

Unfortunately, many mobile games, apps, and social media platforms are designed to keep them hooked for as long as possible.

To get your teens off their phones, encourage them to pursue different interests and passions by doing things like:

Explore new hobbies

To motivate your teenagers to unplug and explore other hobbies, here are some strategies to try:

• Offer to pay for the necessary equipment, tools, or materials, like a painting set or sports equipment
• Give them a ride to the activities or events
• Attend important events, competitions, or concerts your teen is participating in
• Show an interest in their hobbies

Engage in family activities

Scheduling family time is another excellent way to keep teenagers off their phones. This will also give you great opportunities to connect with your teens.

You can set a regular time each week where you spend it together as a family.

Try to let your teenagers take turns picking an activity for family time. This will make them feel more involved, and they’ll be more interested in participating.

You can even tell them that they can invite a friend along.

Encourage the adoption of healthy coping mechanisms

At this stage of life, teenagers are still learning to deal with big and complex emotions. So they might turn to their phones to escape these feelings or fill an emotional void.

While this isn’t wrong if done in moderation, the danger lies in your teens developing an addiction.

Your teens might become reliant on their phones and feel anxious or irritable without them.

To prevent this from happening, do your best to develop a strong relationship with your teens. Be present if they need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.

As they learn to trust and confide in you, you can help them develop healthy and effective coping mechanisms. Some examples include deep breathing, journaling, and exercise.

Principle #3: Lead by example

It’s normal for teenagers to pick up certain habits and behaviors from their parents. Because of this, the way you manage your own screen time will likely also rub off on them.

Here are some things you can try:

Model the right behavior for your teens

Do your best to “walk the talk.”

Telling your teens to act a certain way while doing the opposite will increase the resistance you get from them.

If you want your teens to build good habits, model these habits for your teens.

When setting rules and boundaries for your teens related to screen time, it’s best to also follow them yourself whenever possible.

Share tech breaks with your teens

A tech break is where you put your devices away for a specific amount of time.

This can be done in many different ways. Examples include going on a short family getaway or taking a walk outside without bringing any devices along.

Consider sharing these tech breaks with your teens. This will cause you and your teenagers to be even more engaged in your interactions.

Discuss mindful device usage with your teens

For many smartphone users, unlocking your phone to reply to one text can unintentionally turn into an hour of scrolling through social media.

Discuss the mindful usage of smartphones with your teenagers. Here are some approaches that will increase your level of mindfulness related to technology:

• Be aware of when and why you take out your phone
• Keep track of your phone usage using an app or timer
• Decide which notifications you’ll turn off
• Reflect on how you feel after using your phone for an extended period
• Lock or uninstall distracting apps

Principle #4: Foster digital literacy and responsibility

Your teens are still learning about the pros and cons of technology.

Educating them early on can help them avoid the dangers that are present online and encourage them to be responsible and accountable.

Here are some things you can do to help them:

Discuss the effects of screen time

Are you tired of nagging your teen to get off his or her phone?

Instead of lecturing your teens, turn it into a two-way discussion.

Talk about the pros and cons of technology with your teens, and keep the conversations short. You can also talk to them about how they can stay safe online.

Set specific goals

You can set goals together with your teenagers. And if you think it might work for your teenagers, make it a friendly competition between you and them.

Here are some examples of goals you and your teenagers might decide to pursue:

• Cutting back on screen time by an hour each day
• Taking a break from social media over the weekend
• Keeping phone usage to less than 3 hours a day

Encourage self-control and self-regulation

The temptation for your teens to constantly be on their phones or social media is a big one.

Help your teens develop self-control and discipline when using their devices by doing the following:

• Encourage your teens to put their devices away when it’s time to focus
• Acknowledge their progress when they make an effort to manage their screen time
• Introduce time management techniques to them, e.g., create a daily plan, use the Pomodoro technique

Conclusion

Ever-accessible technology is here to stay. So managing their use of technology is a life skill teens must learn.

Teach your teens to make wise choices, set limits, and become more mindful of their phone usage.

It might not be easy, but it’ll be worth it. With your guidance, your teens will build healthy habits that will benefit them well into adulthood!

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