How do you handle a rebellious teen?
It’s a challenging situation for parents to deal with.
Angry answers to innocent questions, slammed doors, refusing to study – these are behaviours you may be all too familiar with.
Rebellious teens can turn the home into a war zone.
Through my work with 25,000 teens so far, I’ve come across every kind of parent-teen problem you can imagine.
I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t. So, in this article, I’m going to share with you 25 tips for handling rebellious teens more effectively.
1. Decide exactly which behaviours are unacceptable
There are many behaviours your teenager displays that might annoy you.
You might not like the clothes she wears, or you might not like the mess in his bedroom.
But if you react to every one of these behaviours, your relationship with your teenager will descend into one long argument.
Over time, your teen will come to see you as a parent who can never be pleased.
Not only that, if you are constantly criticising your teenager, she will soon learn to block it out as “background noise”.
And that’s bad, because when you really need to register your disapproval, it won’t count for anything.
So it’s essential to be clear about the difference between behaviours that are annoying and those that are unacceptable.
To put it another way, you need to pick your battles.
Parents will have their own boundaries regarding behaviour that is annoying and behaviour that is unacceptable.
Screaming at you while you’re trying to explain something or calling you an “idiot” to your face might be examples of unacceptable behaviours.
On the other hand, what time they take a shower and what they choose to eat might be examples of behaviours that you choose to ignore. [Read more…]