The words and phrases you use as you talk to yourself shape the way you feel.
Your self-talk can make you feel discouraged, or it can lift you up.
As a student, it’s important to pay attention to the words you use as you talk to yourself and others about your frustrations.
Here are 10 phrases you can use to become a more successful and resilient student.
1. “I get to” (don’t say “I have to”)
Instead of saying “I have to”, say “I get to”.
The words “I have to” create a feeling of annoyance. The task at hand will become a burden that you can’t escape from.
But if you say “I get to”, you’ll create a feeling of opportunity and gratitude. The task will seem like a privilege instead of a chore.
For example, don’t say to your parents that you have to take part in the school play. Instead, try saying: “I get to participate in the play and see if acting is something I enjoy.”
Notice the difference? Now, it’s not a burden; it’s an opportunity.
Here’s another example.
Instead of thinking to yourself, “I have to go to school”, try saying to yourself, “I get to go to school”.
You’ll instantly feel happier! You’ll also feel more motivated to go to school and to study.
You’ll also remember that millions of children and teenagers around the world want to go to school, but don’t have the opportunity to do so.
2. “I’ll figure it out” (don’t say “I can’t do it”)
There are very few things in life that you simply cannot do. You may need some help, or you may need more information.
Almost always, there’s a solution.
But when you say “I can’t do it”, it stops you from finding the solution. So say “I’ll figure it out” instead, and you’ll become a more successful and resilient student! [Read more…]