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How to Stop Helicopter Parenting and Allow Your Teen to Be Independent

April 14, 2025 By Daniel Wong Leave a Comment

Helicopter parenting is like keeping the training wheels on your teen’s bike for too long.

When the time comes for your teens to ride on their own, they may not be able to go far without support.

As parents, we always want the best for our teens. Out of love and good intentions, we try to protect them from disappointment and failure.

But being overly protective or too involved can backfire. It stops your teens from developing the confidence and skills they need to navigate life independently.

In this article, I’ll explore common signs of helicopter parenting.

I’ll also walk you through some practical tips that can help you stop helicopter parenting your teenagers.

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What are helicopter parents?

Helicopter parents are those who “hover” over their teenagers’ lives. They closely monitor and control their teens to shield them from mistakes or disappointments.

These parents are very involved in their teens’ lives—social interactions, academics, and extracurricular activities. They often step in and solve issues before their teens have a chance to learn from them.

But research shows that helicopter parenting can have negative effects on teens. These include:

Lower self-esteem
Symptoms of anxiety or depression
Poorer ability to adapt to challenges
Struggles with emotional regulation and resilience
Lack of independence

Characteristics of helicopter parents

Helicopter parents often don’t realize they’re over-involved because their actions come from a place of love and good intentions.

Recognizing the signs can help you step back and give your teen room to grow.

Here are some traits of helicopter parents:

Overprotectiveness: Shielding your teen from risks, mistakes, or disappointment.
Fear of failure: Viewing mistakes as things that should be avoided instead of as learning opportunities.
Difficulty letting go: Making decisions for your teens without allowing them to voice their opinions.
Tendency to solve problems for your teen: Stepping in at the first sign of struggle or conflict.
Over-involvement: Managing every aspect of your teen’s life, such as academics, social life, and dating.
Constant supervision: Always monitoring your teen’s whereabouts and online activity.
Micromanaging school-related activities: Closely monitoring schoolwork, grades, and extracurricular activities.
Unrealistic expectations: Pressuring your teen to get good grades, awards, and accomplishments.
High anxiety: Frequently or constantly worrying about your teen’s well-being and future.

Helicopter parenting examples

Helicopter parenting can take many forms and often looks like protection.

Here are some common examples of how it plays out in the lives of teenagers:

Arguing with teachers over grades instead of letting your teens advocate for themselves or learn from their mistakes
Taking over or overseeing every assignment and college application to ensure perfection
Preventing your teens from engaging in certain hobbies or activities that don’t seem “useful”
Dictating who they can and cannot be friends with or date
Controlling their diet and what they can or cannot eat
Tracking their location and looking through their personal belongings or devices without permission
Dictating how your teens should reply to messages and emails or what they should post on social media
Making career or college choices for your teens without considering their opinions or interests
Monitoring their study habits excessively and enforcing tight schedules without room for flexibility
Taking over responsibilities from your teens, such as tracking deadlines or appointments
Discouraging your teens from trying new activities or learning new skills for fear of them making mistakes

On the surface, these actions may seem like you’re setting your teens up for success by shielding them from failure, stress, or obstacles.

In the short term, your teens might even gain an advantage—such as better grades, fewer conflicts, or a smoother path forward.

However, in the long run, this level of control can hinder their growth and development. It will make it harder for them to solve problems, navigate challenges, and make wise decisions independently.

What causes helicopter parenting?

Understanding why you may be helicopter parenting is the first step toward change.

By identifying the root causes, you can work on targeted strategies to reduce over-involvement.

Here are some possible causes of helicopter parenting:

Concern and a sense of duty: You may be a helicopter parent because of a strong desire to protect and provide for your teenagers in every way possible.
Fear of the future: You are worried that a blunder or slip-up might have a lasting impact on your teenager’s future.
Social pressure: Seeing other parents micromanage their teens and compare grades makes you feel like you should do the same. This is to ensure your teenagers can keep up with their peers.
Personal insecurities: If you have failures or mistakes from the past that you haven’t let go of yet, you may project these fears onto your teens.
Desire for control: If you struggle to trust your teen’s judgment, you may take over the decision-making process. This is so you can ensure he or she makes the right choice.
Cultural expectations: Some cultures emphasize parental control in academics, career, and life choices. Parents are deemed to be responsible for their children’s success.

Letting go doesn’t mean caring less. It means equipping your teens to handle life’s challenges independently.

How to not be a helicopter parent

Shifting from the helicopter parenting style doesn’t mean that you should let your teens do whatever they want.

It comes down to knowing how to balance allowing them to be independent and providing structure and guidance when needed.

Here are some tips:

Encourage independence gradually

If you’ve been helicopter parenting for most of your teen’s life, it can be difficult for both parties to shift toward a more balanced approach.

Your teen might struggle with newfound freedom and make impulsive decisions, while you may find it hard to let go completely.

Instead, try gradually encouraging independence. Start with small steps, like allowing your teens to manage their own schedule or control how they spend their allowance.

As they build confidence, you can encourage them to make bigger decisions. These include managing their social activities, appointments, and who they date or spend time with.

Remind your teens that they will have the freedom to make certain decisions, but they can always turn to you for support or advice if they ever need it.

Of course, you can offer advice and guidance when they ask for it. But if the situation isn’t dangerous, let your teens decide for themselves.

This will help them understand choices and their consequences, allowing them to make better decisions in the future.

Foster resilience through failure

Mistakes are part and parcel of learning and growing as a person. Watching your teens experience failure, disappointment, or heartbreak is painful. But this can help them build resilience to handle the ups and downs of life.

Here’s how you and your teens can constructively handle setbacks:

Help your teens understand that everyone makes mistakes. Talk openly about your own failures and what you learned from them. Instead of criticizing, establish an open line of communication with your teens. Doing so will make them feel comfortable coming to you for support when things go wrong.
Encourage problem-solving. Instead of solving every issue or conflict for your teenagers, teach them how to brainstorm solutions. You can also show them how to weigh the pros and cons of each option. Then, allow them to proactively work toward resolving the problem.
Promote a growth mindset. Remind your teens that failure is a step toward growth, not something to avoid or fear. Let them know that their mistakes or failures will not define them as a person.
Celebrate effort, not just results. Compliment your teen’s hard work and determination, regardless of the outcomes.

Set healthy boundaries as a parent

Setting boundaries for yourself as a parent allows you to give your teens more space and independence.

Some ways you can draw healthy boundaries for yourself as a parent include the following:

Respect your teens’ privacy. Avoid going through their personal belongings or reading their messages without permission.
Avoid micromanaging. Set expectations for school and chores, but let your teenagers proactively figure out how to meet them.
Set communication expectations. Maybe you tend to ask for constant updates on your teens’ whereabouts. Instead of doing this, you can set a rule for your teens to send you a message when they arrive at their destination.
Let your teens handle their own conflicts. Avoid stepping in immediately. Encourage them to resolve disagreements with friends or teachers on their own.

Manage your own fears and anxiety

Helicopter parents act out of love, but their actions are also driven by their own fears and worries.

They may be stressed about many different aspects of their teens’ lives, such as their safety, success, future, or health.

Here are some ways you can start managing your fears and anxieties:

Identify what triggers make you anxious, for instance, reading the news or speaking with overly negative people.
Challenge your thinking and ask yourself if your concerns are realistic or if you’re catastrophizing.
Develop a growth mindset, which will help you see mistakes—both yours and your teen’s—as learning experiences.
Establish a stress management routine and find ways to prioritize your own well-being.
Seek support from a coach, therapist, or friends and family you trust, as they can help to offer perspective and reassurance.

It’s completely natural to have concerns about your teen’s future. But instead of projecting these fears onto your teens, you may need to shift your mindset to focus on what will help them grow.

Model confidence and trust

If your teens see that you’re always stressed, they may doubt their ability to overcome setbacks.

Instead of letting worry take over, focus on modeling confidence and trust. Here’s how you can do that:

When facing challenges, adopt a problem-solving mindset instead of panicking. This will teach your teens to handle problems with confidence and resilience.
Encourage self-reliance. When your teens ask for help with something they can figure out on their own, encourage them to try to handle the situation by themselves first. This helps them become more confident in their own decision-making skills.
Let your teenagers make decisions, and avoid stepping in at the first sign of trouble. Doing this shows your teens that you trust their ability to handle challenges and overcome obstacles.
Gradually show more trust in different ways. You can start by giving them personal responsibilities, like planning a family outing or handling their finances. Through these opportunities, teens learn to take ownership and be accountable for their choices.

Conclusion

We can always be there for our teens now. But we can’t do that for the rest of their lives.

This is why it’s so important to learn how to stop helicopter parenting.

While this can be a challenging process, it will help your teenagers develop the life skills they need to thrive long after they’ve left the nest.

If you’d like to get some help for your teenager, I highly recommend the one-on-one coaching program I offer for teens.

In this program, I’ll personally work with your teenager to enable him or her to become motivated, responsible, and resilient.

Get in touch today to find out more!

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Financial Literacy for Teens: 9 Key Concepts to Master Money Management

February 11, 2025 By Daniel Wong 7 Comments

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

You might have heard this Chinese proverb before. Many adults use it to reflect on habits they wish they had started earlier, like saving money or investing.

And there’s a good reason for that—financial literacy is a skill many people only realize the importance of when they’re much older.

As a teenager, you have a huge advantage in terms of time! Starting now means you can build habits that will benefit you for years.

Schools may not emphasize financial education for teens too much. So it can take time and effort to learn these skills independently.

But I promise it’ll be worth it. Understanding how to manage your money now will set you up for success and independence.

In this article, we’ll dive deeper into the core financial principles that teens should learn and understand.

We’ll also explore some financial education resources for teens. These can help you kickstart your journey toward financial independence!

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Why it is important to be financially literate

Being financially literate means knowing how to manage money well. This involves budgeting, saving, investing, and allocating resources wisely.

Being financially literate can help you in the following areas:

Saving more money in less time for important goals, like a college fund or house downpayment
Setting up an emergency fund and medical fund for rainy days
Avoiding costly mistakes that could land you in debt or eat into your savings
Reducing stress and frustration from financial strains

Being financially literate paves the way to a more stable and secure future.

Basic financial concepts for young adults

At this point, you might not yet be familiar with key financial principles.

Perhaps you haven’t had the chance to earn your own income. Or maybe you haven’t explored money management beyond what’s taught in school.

That’s completely okay—everyone starts somewhere.

The fact that you’re here reading this shows that you’re eager to learn about managing money. And since you’re starting young, you’re already on the right track!

Let’s discuss some basic financial principles every teen should know. Learning these key concepts will help you make good decisions when handling your money.

Concept #1: Understanding money

Money is more than the coins and bills in your wallet. It’s the medium through which you can attain various items, services, and experiences.

One of the most basic principles of managing money is understanding cash flow.

Cash flow represents the difference between the money you earn and spend. One way to improve cash flow is to reduce non-essential spending and prioritize needs over wants.

Needs refer to items or services necessary to maintain your physical, mental, or financial well-being. Examples include housing, food, and education.

In contrast, wants include everything else apart from your needs. These might be the gadgets you use, entertainment, or additional pairs of shoes.

By prioritizing your needs, you can devote most of your resources to the things that truly matter.

Concept #2: Budgeting basics

A budget serves as a map for your money. It helps you understand where each dollar should go.

Without a budget, it’s easy to overspend.

Budgeting is one of the most powerful tools to add to your financial literacy kit. Research shows that even a mental budget can improve a person’s finances.

So, something as simple as drawing up a budget in your mind can be helpful.

If you want to create a more detailed and structured budget, you can do this in many different ways.

One of the simplest ways to get started is by using the 50/20/20/10 method. 50% of what you earn or of your allowance goes to needs, 20% to wants, 20% to savings, and 10% can be given away to various causes.

Of course, you can tweak this ratio to suit your lifestyle and goals. For instance, you can allocate more to savings to build up an emergency fund or save for something special, like a trip or birthday gift.

Write down your budget for different categories of spending. That way, you’ll know exactly how much you can spend on different items and services.

When you have a budget, tracking how much you spend is also important.

You can use a phone app or physical notebook to record all your expenses and what they were for. As you do this, you can check to see if you’re within your budget at anytime.

Concept #3: Saving and goal-setting

This is one of the most powerful habits you can build to secure your future.

Nurturing the habit of saving boils down to the concept of “paying yourself first.”

Prioritize setting aside a portion of your income or allowance to save before spending on non-necessities.

Another way to improve your saving habits is by setting clear saving goals for yourself. There are three main types of saving goals you can have.

The three goals and examples of them are as follows:

Short-term goals: Concert ticket, a birthday gift for a family member, or a new pair of sneakers
Medium-term goals: Summer camp, a new gadget, or a vacation
Long-term goals: College or university fees, or a new car

Many banks offer bank accounts for teens that a parent or guardian can help to open. If you don’t already have a bank account, try to get one opened so you can start saving as soon as possible.

Concept #4: Understanding credit and debt

Credit means borrowing money you will pay back later, which often comes with interest. This can be done by using credit cards and taking loans.

Another important thing to understand is the difference between credit and debit cards.

Credit cards allow you to borrow money up to a specific limit, which you will repay. On the other hand, debit cards let you spend money that’s already in your bank account.

If you opt for credit card payments, note that they require disciplined repayment, or you might end up with hefty interest charges.

You’ve probably heard of the term “debt.” It’s often thought of as a bad thing. But there is a difference between bad and good debt.

Good debt allows you to invest in something that will improve your future and finances, like a student loan.

Bad debt is borrowing money to buy items or services that lose value quickly and aren’t necessary. An example is buying a fancy or luxurious car that you might struggle to pay off.

Knowing the difference can help you avoid financial pitfalls.

Concept #5: Investing wisely

You might have heard advice like, “Make your money work for you.”

One way to do this is through investing, which is a powerful tool for growing your finances over time.

This results from compound interest, which is the interest you earn from interest. Compound interest can snowball, leading to large growth over time.

Some ways to invest include:

Stocks: Stocks are shares of a company. These have the potential for greater returns but also come with greater risks.
Bonds: These are loans that you give to the government or corporations. They might give you lower returns but are generally less risky.
Mutual funds: These allow you to pool your money with that of many other investors. This money is used to purchase stocks, bonds, or other investments, offering some diversification.

Different investment mediums have different pros and cons.

You will have to do your own research or consult a guardian or parent to learn more about these different types of investments.

Concept #6: Smart spending habits

Being mindful of how you spend your money can help you save more for what truly matters.

Some smart spending habits include the following:

Spend within your means: Setting budgets based on your income or allowance helps you understand what you can and cannot afford.
Avoid impulsive purchases: Avoid shopping online when you’re feeling emotional. Leave items in your online shopping cart for a day or two before checking out. It also helps to revamp your social media. Removing accounts that encourage unnecessary expenses and buying a lot will help reduce the urge to make impulsive buys.
Reduce non-essential expenses: Take some time to reflect on how you spend your money. Write a list of your most common expenses. Then, review each non-essential expense to see if you can cut back on anything. An example might be a streaming service you don’t use much.

Of course, you can still treat yourself occasionally. It’s all about balance and learning to prioritize your needs over your wants.

Concept #7: Understanding taxes

Taxes might seem complex, but everyone has to learn how they work sooner or later.

Taxes are mandatory payments collected by the government. Taxes help fund essential public services. These include roads, public transportation, police services, and education.

Teens aren’t exempt from paying taxes. If your income from a job hits a certain threshold, you will be legally required to pay taxes.

In the United States, both earned and unearned income may incur taxes. Earned income is the money you make from working. Unearned income is the money you make from any investments, including interest and dividends.

Understanding how taxes work will allow you to handle your income and taxes with more confidence in the future.

Concept #8: The importance of financial safety

Scams and frauds are becoming more rampant. In one year alone, roughly 880,000 people in the US reported being victims of scams.

Scams can happen to anyone. And without proper safety measures, all your hard-earned cash can disappear overnight.

Here are steps you can take to safeguard your finances:

Only shop from websites that are secure, such as those with “https” in the URL
Look out for dangerous website addresses that can closely resemble legitimate ones
Avoid saving your card details on shared or publicly-used devices, such as computers in the library
Keep all your banking passwords private
If you receive calls asking for your banking passwords, end the call
Be careful with links you receive from social media messages or email
Use strong passwords on your accounts to reduce the risk of being hacked
Enable two-factor authentication for greater security

The most common scams affecting teens involve the Internet.

So, most of the above preventative steps help to keep you safe while you’re online. These habits might seem small, but they are crucial to practice so you can avoid costly mistakes down the road.

Concept #9: Planning for the future

The future may feel very far off. But planning early can save you a lot of money, trouble, and headaches in the long run.

There are several steps you can take to start planning for your future. These include:

Set long-term goals. You can start setting clear goals early on, for instance, saving money to buy a new car or pay for your college fees.
Learn about different investment options. Before investing in anything, you will have to do some research. This is especially so if the investment involves more risks.
Prepare for emergencies. An emergency fund helps to ensure you’re well-prepared for unexpected expenses in the future. Examples include medical bills or car repairs.
Educate yourself about different career options. It’s never too early to start exploring different career paths. You can also learn more about the subjects or courses you need to take to achieve your career goals.
Invest time, money, and energy into upskilling. New skills or certifications can make you more competitive in the job market. You can also look into free resources or courses.
Learn about retirement options. If you live in the US, examples include a 401(k) or an IRA. These allow you to save money while benefiting from tax advantages. The compound interest from these funds will also help you grow your wealth over time.

These steps ensure you’re prepared not only for your immediate goals but also for a lifetime of financial security.

Financial education resources

Learning to make wise financial decisions is a lifelong journey. By taking the initiative now, you can use the time you have to build strong habits and set yourself up for long-term success.

To do this, it’s crucial to keep expanding your knowledge. Thankfully, there are many resources available to help you learn key financial skills and concepts. These include books, blogs, courses, and videos.

Books about financial literacy for teens

Books can be excellent resources on money management. Many of them provide in-depth insights that you might not be able to learn through a quick video or blog post.

Some excellent reads for teens to further their financial education include:

Money Skills for Teens: This book is a beginner’s guide to everything money-related. You’ll learn about investing, credit scores, saving, and other key principles. This knowledge will help you build a healthy relationship with money.
Rich Dad, Poor Dad for Teens: This is a spin-off from the bestseller Rich Dad, Poor Dad. It will teach you the best ways to achieve financial success, such as making your money work for you.
The Motley Fool Investment Guide for Teens: This book explores the different ways to invest your money. Examples include equities, bonds, mutual funds, and index funds.
Set for Life: An All-Out Approach to Early Financial Freedom: This book discusses how to build greater wealth in a shorter amount of time.

Websites and courses

Online resources offer a great deal of knowledge at your fingertips. Some online resources you can check out are as follows:

Youth Financial Education: This website offers resources for parents and teachers to teach financial literacy to K-12 students. But you can still learn from and review these resources on your own.
Money Smart for Young People: You can learn about different income sources and how to differentiate needs from wants. You can also read more about setting financial goals and saving money.
A Teen’s Guide to Money and Finance: This short but informative guide goes through the basic principles of managing your money.

YouTube channels

If you enjoy watching YouTube videos, you can also use this platform to learn more about money management.

Some channels that cover this topic in a way that’s easy to understand include:

Conclusion

Learning to manage your money is an essential life skill for teens.

It’s never too early to start. The sooner you do, the more prepared you’ll be to budget, save, invest, and plan for a bright future.

Having said that, this isn’t something you’ll master overnight—it’s a lifelong journey.

Even adults sometimes struggle to make good financial decisions. So, be patient with yourself as you learn and grow, knowing that every step brings you closer to financial success.

If you want to develop crucial life skills and become motivated, focused, and responsible, check out this one-on-one coaching program I offer.

I’ve spent many thousands of hours coaching teens, and I’d love to help you develop the skills you need to succeed in the long term!

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7 Things Every Teenager Should Do to Prepare for the Future

Updated on May 27, 2025 By Daniel Wong Leave a Comment

Do you ever feel stressed thinking about your future?

Feeling nervous about starting new chapters in your life is natural.

But the fact that you’re thinking ahead is a great start.

You might already have clear goals and ambitions. Or you might still be exploring different interests and pursuits.

Either way, it’s never too early to prepare for the journey ahead.

In this article, I’ll explain 7 things you can do as a teenager to set the stage for a fulfilling future.

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1. Build communication skills

Learning how to communicate helps you convey your thoughts and opinions better. It also allows you to resolve conflicts, give and receive feedback, and persuade others.

The good news is that you don’t have to be an extrovert or social butterfly to be able to communicate well. Research has shown that it’s a skill that anyone can develop.

Here’s how you can work on building your communication skills:

Practice active listening without interrupting or jumping to conclusions
Stay focused on what the person is saying rather than thinking about what you want to say next
Try to face the speaker, maintain good eye contact, and avoid crossing your arms
Practice being brief and concise whenever you speak
Put away distractions, such as your phone, during every conversation

Start by applying one or two of these tips to your daily interactions with others.

2. Set clear, actionable, and process-based goals

Goal-setting is crucial as it has a massive impact on life outcomes.

Here are some tips to keep in mind if you want to set effective goals:

Set specific short-term and long-term goals. Shorter-term targets can be achieved within a week, a month, or even a year, while longer-term ones could take several years to complete. You may have big dreams and great ideas. The key to achieving them is knowing how to break these long-term goals into practical and smaller ones.
Create actionable process-based goals. An outcome-based goal would be to “get selected for the basketball team.” Instead of focusing on these types of outcome-based goals, create process-based goals like “practice five specific dribbling drills for half an hour every day” or “run intervals for half an hour every other day.”
Set up repeatable systems and processes. For example, if your goal is to learn a new language, your systems could include how to practice and immerse yourself in the language.
Make sure your goals are realistic and achievable. Researchers have discovered that those who believe they can achieve their goals are more likely to achieve them. Try to have realistic and progressive goals that naturally become harder as you gain more experience and skills.

3. Nurture healthy daily habits

The health-related choices you make now will affect your well-being in the long run.

Good habits take time to build, so it’s never too early to start optimizing these core pillars of health:

Exercise. It’s recommended that teenagers should exercise for at least 60 minutes on most days of the week. Explore different sports and workouts so you can find something you enjoy!
Nutrition. Include more whole grains, vegetables, fruits, and healthy proteins in your diet. At the same time, limit your intake of junk food and food with lots of added sugars.
Sleep. Teenagers should get 8 to 10 hours of sleep a day. Having a regular sleep schedule and keeping the bedroom dark, cool, and quiet helps to create a conducive environment for sleep.
Mental health. Some stress-relief methods include breathing or relaxation exercises. You can also build a support system of friends and family you trust.

4. Cultivate an attitude of lifelong learning

Building a growth mindset is the best way to nurture the desire to learn. A person with this mindset believes that skills and positive traits can be learned and developed.

To develop this mindset and grow your love for learning, try implementing the following tips:

Accept your mistakes and view them as opportunities to learn
Embrace challenges and get outside your comfort zone often
Cultivate the curiosity to explore different skills, topics, and hobbies
Make time to delve into various courses and workshops
Be kind to yourself in the way you talk to yourself about your shortcomings
Be open and humble enough to accept criticism and feedback

5. Develop financial literacy

Financial literacy can be divided into several main areas: saving, budgeting, investing, and managing finances.

Some simple ways to get started on improving your financial literacy skills include:

Creating a budget. Many experts recommend the 50/30/20 rule. This rule states that 50% of your allowance or earnings should go to needs, 30% to wants, and 20% to savings (as well as donations).
Starting your own savings account. You can get your parents to go with you to a bank to start your own savings account. This can help you build the habit of saving and teach you to handle your money early on.
Tracking your spending. It’s easy to go overboard when you don’t keep tabs on your expenses. You can use a personal finance app, spreadsheet, or even a physical journal to keep track of what you spend money on each day.

6. Gain work experience

Work experience is invaluable and will help you develop skills like teamwork, communication, and time management.

There are several methods of gaining work experience, including the following:

Doing a part-time job
Doing an internship
Volunteering at a non-profit organization
Offering services like dog sitting or babysitting

If you need help finding job opportunities, you can seek the advice of your school counselor, teachers, or parents.

7. Become a self-starter and build a strong work ethic

Many teenagers are used to depending on threats, consequences, and reminders from their parents or teachers to “force” them to do what they ought to. This mindset can continue into adulthood.

To counter this, you can start building a self-starter mindset and learn to keep yourself motivated and committed.

Think about meaningful activities you can start taking up. Do you want to learn a new language or pick up a new skill like coding or video editing?

Then, find online courses, articles, or resources to help you achieve those goals. Take the initiative to create a schedule and break down your goals into specific tasks or routines.

Along the way, be sure to celebrate your wins and progress. This will boost your confidence in your abilities, making it easier to be a self-starter in all your future undertakings.

Conclusion

It can be difficult and sometimes even scary to think about the future and the various paths you can take.

And while you can’t predict the future, the actions you take now can ensure you’re as adequately prepared for it as possible.

The changes you make now, though small, can add up and enable you to build a bright and promising future.

Of course, you can’t expect success overnight. But your future self will thank you for the steps you’re taking today to invest in your education, health, financial literacy, and more!

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8 Ways for Students to Develop a Growth Mindset (And Become Excited About Learning!)

Updated on February 12, 2025 By Daniel Wong 2 Comments

Have you ever told yourself you’d never be good at a particular skill or subject?

If so, you may have a fixed mindset.

A fixed mindset is the belief that everyone is born with certain strengths and weaknesses that cannot be changed.

The opposite of this is called a growth mindset. This mindset motivates you to learn new things and embrace challenges.

Thoughts are powerful. They influence how you respond to setbacks in life.

In this article, we’ll discuss how a growth mindset can help you as a student. We’ll also explore what you can do to start building and nurturing this mindset.

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What are the characteristics of a growth mindset?

Students with a growth mindset believe they can learn and improve any skill through practice and effort.

Some characteristics of a growth mindset include the following:

Embracing challenges, even those that come with the risk of failure
Being willing to step outside your comfort zone to learn new things
Constantly looking for ways to improve and to test new strategies
Feeling inspired rather than jealous of other people’s success
Asking questions and owning up to your mistakes
Seeing mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow
Embracing constructive feedback and advice
Viewing failure as temporary, not permanent

As a student, you can apply a growth mindset to every area of your life, including your studies, health, and relationships.

Why is a growth mindset important for students?

A growth mindset motivates you to learn and grow. It helps you focus on what you can do to improve instead of getting caught up with how to impress others.

Some benefits of a growth mindset include the following:

More resilience. Having a growth mindset allows you to bounce back more quickly. Instead of giving up, you’ll view mistakes as opportunities to learn and improve your skills or abilities.
Greater adaptability. This mindset teaches you to embrace change. It also motivates you to find creative solutions to problems.
Less stress and anxiety. Research shows that a growth mindset can help you manage and reduce stress. It enables you to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude.
Healthy coping mechanisms. This mindset leads to better mental health, and helps you develop positive coping mechanisms. For example, a growth mindset helps you focus on solving problems rather than worrying about what others think.

Ultimately, a growth mindset increases your chances of achieving your goals and finding fulfillment.

8 ways to develop a growth mindset in the classroom

When it comes to mindset, you can’t just flip the switch. It takes time to cultivate a healthier approach toward your academics and life in general.

The following are eight ways you can start nurturing a growth mindset as a student:

1. Practice self-reflection

Self-reflection is a powerful tool that can expose your unhealthy thinking patterns.

Spend a little time each day reflecting on your thoughts. Which thoughts pushed you closer to your goals, and which thoughts pulled you further from them?

Look out for unhelpful thinking patterns. Some examples of these thoughts include, “That’s just the way I am,” or “I’ll never be good at math.”

As you identify unhelpful thinking patterns, you can start replacing them with growth mindset phrases.

For instance, instead of saying, “I’m so bad at chemistry,” you can tell yourself, “I’m working on getting better at chemistry.”

You can also replace them with encouraging quotes to keep your mind focused on growth and resilience.

Remember that it takes time to change your thinking. Practice being conscious of how you talk to yourself, especially when you face obstacles.

2. Embrace challenges

Challenges are part of the growing process. If you want to embrace challenges in your life, it’s important to accept that you’ll likely feel uncomfortable.

Maybe you’re trying out a new sport or taking on a leadership role in a club at school. These new challenges might cause you to feel insecure or stressed. You might even feel like giving up.

Remind yourself that these unpleasant feelings are only temporary. On the other hand, what you learn will stay with you throughout your life.

Another way to build perseverance through challenges is to learn how to manage stress well.

One way to do this is to come up with a list of activities you find relaxing.

Journaling, meditation, exercising, or listening to music are some possible examples. Have this list handy. And when you’re feeling stressed, pick one activity from the list and spend 10 minutes on it.

3. Set task-oriented goals

Setting goals builds discipline and accountability. It helps you to focus on what you can do to improve and grow.

Research shows that the type of goals you set for yourself can make a big difference.

Setting goals based on grades or scores alone isn’t beneficial. It adds unnecessary stress and doesn’t provide a clear action plan.

On the other hand, setting task-based goals is much more effective.

Let’s say you’re studying for your math exam. Try not to set a goal like “get an A on the math exam.”

Instead, create task-based goals. An example is “complete three timed practice exams before the actual exam.” Make sure the goal is measurable, achievable, and specific.

These goals focus more on the process than the end result, which is critical for building a growth mindset.

4. Ask mentors for support

A mentor is someone you can turn to for advice and support. A good mentor encourages you and helps you believe in yourself.

You can enroll in a mentoring or coaching program. Mentors or coaches usually provide academic and other kinds of support.

They may also teach you valuable skills, such as how to find internship opportunities.

Mentorship focuses on reflection and on improving yourself – essential approaches for nurturing a growth mindset.

5. Cultivate curiosity

Having a curious mind encourages you to explore and to develop new solutions. It also leads to a passion for learning, which is a key ingredient of a growth mindset.

Cultivating curiosity is like strengthening a muscle. The following are some ways for you to activate your curiosity muscle:

Avoid shying away from things that are new or unfamiliar, like learning a new sport
Accept that uncertainty and discomfort are a natural part of learning
Learn about your friends’ or family member’s life experiences
Get into the habit of asking why more often
Ask questions when you don’t understand something

6. Learn to love the process, not the end result

I touched on this briefly in Point 3, but let me expand on the concept further here.

Focusing on the end result can leave you feeling extremely disappointed or discouraged if you don’t achieve what you were hoping for.

On the flip side, learning to love the process means you’ll be less stressed and more resilient.

No matter the outcome, you’ll be motivated because of the knowledge and experience you stand to gain.

Here are some practices that can teach you how to enjoy the process:

Experiment with different processes and strategies. For instance, you can try out different study strategies and techniques. Examples include mind mapping, spaced repetition, or the Feynman technique. By doing this, you’ll discover which methods are the most effective and enjoyable for you.
Break down big tasks into smaller steps. This makes a big goal or project more manageable. It can also make the process more fulfilling as you tick off each small step along the way.
Take time to celebrate. Celebrate both the big and small wins. When you accomplish a goal, reward yourself with something you enjoy. For instance, you can treat yourself to a nice meal or watch your favorite movie.
Be grateful for what you have. From time to time, reflect on what you’ve achieved and learned. Think about the progress you’ve made so far. Gratitude gives you a sense of fulfillment as you reflect on how far you’ve come.

7. Seek constructive feedback

Constructive feedback is priceless and can help you grow in different areas of life. After all, we all have blind spots.

Knowing who to seek feedback from is crucial.

If you’re learning a new sport, ask your coach or trainer about areas you can improve in.

Perhaps you’re struggling with a specific class. Your teacher is in the best position to give you meaningful advice.

When seeking feedback, it’s essential to ask the right kind of question.

A question like “Do you have any feedback on my work?” will probably get you a quick “no” as a reply.

Instead, ask, “What areas can I work on?” or “What could I have done better during my presentation?” These open-ended questions will lead to more in-depth answers and advice.

Also, ask for feedback as soon as you’re able to. The fresher the experience, the more accurate the feedback will be.

8. Learn from your mistakes

A key characteristic of a growth mindset is the willingness to admit and learn from your mistakes.

The following are practices that will prevent you from repeating your errors and will enable you to apply what you’ve learned:

Own up to your mistakes instead of looking for someone or something else to blame
Do what you need to do to rectify the mistake, for instance, paying for something you lost or damaged
View mistakes as opportunities to learn
Reflect on what went wrong and on what you could have done better
Seek help or advice from people you trust on how you can prevent these mistakes in the future

Don’t punish yourself for your shortcomings. No one is perfect.

What’s most important is that you continue to learn, grow, and improve.

Conclusion

Knowing you can change is essential. It encourages you to get better day by day.

This way of thinking also empowers you to be more confident when you’re faced with obstacles.

Having a fixed mindset means you’ll always doubt your abilities and limit yourself in what you think you can achieve.

But with a growth mindset, you’ll develop essential life skills and grow in character too.

This will help you succeed in school, in your future career, and in any other goals you set!

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What to Do After High School: 12 Options Besides College

Updated on May 27, 2025 By Daniel Wong 7 Comments

Do you feel a little nervous thinking about the day you’ll graduate from high school?

The amount of freedom you’ll have to carve out your own path in life is exciting.

But you might feel overwhelmed by it, too – especially if you have no idea what you plan to do.

Many high school graduates go straight to college or university. While this is a common route, you might be exploring other options.

After all, going to college after you graduate isn’t the only path to a successful life.

As you think about what career to pursue, there are plenty of meaningful ways to use your time.

In this article, I’ll talk about how you can decide which path to take. I’ll also explore what you can do after high school to build the knowledge, skills, and values you need to succeed.

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How to decide what to do after high school

“The craftsman mindset focuses on what you can offer the world. The passion mindset focuses instead on what the world can offer you.”

– Cal Newport, bestselling author of Deep Work and So Good They Can’t Ignore You

You may be feeling a bit lost about what to do after you graduate.

After all, with so many options available after high school, how can you be sure that the choice you make is the right one?

You can try narrowing down your options using the craftsman mindset – a concept Cal Newport talks about in his book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You.

This concept is all about building valuable skills. You focus on mastering specific skills, and the passion will follow naturally.

This encourages you to become so good in your field or career that you stand out and become indispensable.

College isn’t the only way to build valuable skills. But any alternative you consider should ensure you keep learning and growing.

Starting this journey of improvement and growth will give you a huge advantage. It positions you for long-term success and a meaningful future.

You can use the craftsman mindset to get a clearer picture of what to do after high school.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

What value can I offer to those around me?
What are my natural gifts? What skills have I already picked up?
How can I use these talents and skills to provide value to other people?
How can I practice using these skills so I can improve?
Where can I gain valuable feedback to improve?
Where can I look for mentors or peers who can provide me with feedback?

Shortlist choices that enable you to hone your skills through practice and feedback.

Once you’ve narrowed down your options, it’ll be much easier to make a decision.

12 things to consider doing after high school

Each person has different gifts, talents, and skills. So you don’t have to feel pressured into doing what everyone else is doing.

Of course, it’s still important to use your time wisely to build your skill set and character.

While there are many unimportant things you could focus on, here’s a list of beneficial things you can do after high school besides college.

1. Take a gap year

A gap year is a planned break that allows you to pursue your own professional and personal development. This can be done without the pressure of exams or doing well at school.

Despite its name, a gap year doesn’t have to last a year.

You can take just a couple of months off to explore your skills and interests and better understand what you want to do in the future.

Some graduates choose to do an internship and build professional relationships. Others take online courses, while others focus on traveling and doing volunteer work. They may also work on developing skills like budgeting.

Taking a gap year can be beneficial. For instance, the Gap Year Alumni Survey found that it may help to improve confidence, maturity, and communication skills.

One study also found that students who took a gap year were more likely to get better grades in college.

Of course, taking a gap year might come with some drawbacks. You’ll likely graduate later than your peers. You may also lose momentum in your studies.

That being said, a planned break can still be well worth your time. What’s important is to have an actionable plan and goals for your gap year.

2. Develop an in-demand skill

Everyone has different natural abilities and talents.

It’s a good idea to explore and improve your natural talents, but it’s just as important to expand and grow your skill set so you can adapt.

There are plenty of in-demand skills you can learn to help open up doors to more career opportunities. Examples of sought-after skills include data analysis, digital marketing, and cloud computing.

You can pick up the basics of these skills through internships, courses, and speaking with mentors. You can also read books to get motivated and inspired to figure out what you want to learn.

Plus, it’s easy to find relevant information through online platforms, such as YouTube, Coursera, and Udemy.

3. Create a product of exceptional quality

You can learn a lot from the process of building a product that adds value to others and solves a real problem.

Of course, the money you can earn is a great bonus.

Start by listing your ideas. Then, research them to find out which is the most practical and marketable one.

Is there a decent number of people who have this problem? How can you improve upon the solutions that already exist?

Additionally, try talking to friends or family members who face this problem to gain further insights.

Then, you can start working on your prototype. Start building the product with the resources you have.

If you don’t have a big budget, that’s okay. You can brainstorm ideas for products that don’t need a lot of capital at the start. Examples include services or digital products.

Then, begin offering your product to people you know. Get their feedback and gradually work on improving it before marketing it to a larger audience.

4. Freelance by offering a service

Are you a skillful artist? Or maybe you’re great at graphic design or have a knack for writing?

List all your current skills, and think about how you can use them to offer a service that people need.

Brainstorm the possible problems your ideal client might have, and think about how you can help to resolve those issues.

Once you’ve found your niche, you can create a portfolio of sample work and case studies. This might require you to initially take on projects for free or at a low cost.

There may also be short courses you can take to enhance your skills and gain certifications that help you to build trust with your clients.

As you become more skilled and experienced, you can raise your rates and reach out to larger clients and companies.

5. Attend trade school

A trade school is a post-high school institution that provides training for specific skills.

These vocational schools prepare students for various technical jobs.

Examples include dental hygienists, electricians, plumbers, and veterinary technicians.

It can take anywhere from three months to two years to finish a program and get a diploma.

Again, you’ll have to consider the drawbacks of joining such programs. For instance, trade school might lead to limited career growth if you don’t plan to further your studies later in life.

But trade school is more affordable and can open doors to in-demand careers. In addition, such programs often provide job-focused, hands-on training. This allows you to pick up and master a new skill or craft in less time.

6. Enhance your skill set with an entry-level job

Starting work right out of high school is a good way to gain experience and bolster your résumé.

Through a job, you can build the skills you need to succeed. Examples of these valuable skills include communication, leadership, and time management.

You’ll have the opportunity to learn from your colleagues. Plus, you’ll get to build professional relationships with people in that field.

Here are some tips for looking for a job as a high school graduate:

Start listing the types of jobs you’re eligible for. Certain industries are easier to get into even if you don’t have a university degree. Examples include digital marketing, community health, and design-related jobs.
Try to be as flexible as you can with your preferences. Don’t limit yourself too much while applying for jobs.
Create a résumé for your job search, as this shows you’re serious about your application. Include projects you’ve worked on, leadership roles, competitions, and extracurricular activities.
Look for opportunities through friends and family members, too. Working for people you know helps you to build contacts and makes it easier to get references when you apply for future jobs.

Apply to multiple jobs at once instead of just one at a time. And remember, the more relevant jobs you apply to, the higher your chances of landing a good one.

7. Become an apprentice

An apprenticeship is a program that trains new graduates for a specific trade or job.

This offers a longer-term opportunity for you to work and study at the same time. You’ll gain hands-on experience by working full-time while completing your training on the side.

You’ll be given entry-level work and responsibilities. In addition, you’ll likely spend time shadowing and learning from seniors and experts in the field.

You may also have to attend training programs and go for assessments.

There are different types of apprenticeships offered. Some can be completed entirely at your workplace. Others might require you to attend classes at a college or university.

Here’s how you can start looking for apprenticeship opportunities:

Research available opportunities in your area. You can do this online, get help from your school, or contact local colleges to ask about your options.
Once you’ve shortlisted your options, start preparing the documents needed for the application. This may include a cover letter, résumé, references, and certifications.
Send in your application. If possible, drop off your documents personally. This can leave a good impression on your employer.

Again, apply for multiple programs at once to boost your chances of securing an apprenticeship.

8. Find an internship

An internship is a shorter-term opportunity for you to get work experience. Internships are usually reserved for students and younger people who want entry-level experience.

There are different ways for you to find a suitable internship opportunity.

You can start by asking friends and family if they know of any internships being offered at their workplace. You can also look online on job boards like Indeed or a job search platform like LinkedIn.

Alternatively, you can visit local businesses and companies to ask if they offer any internships. Non-profit organizations may also be a source of internship opportunities.

Again, you’ll want to create a résumé and cover letter for your application.

Try to keep your résumé short – a maximum of about one page. Also, make it concise, highlighting only your relevant experience and leadership roles.

9. Travel

If you have the resources and time to travel, consider going on a trip abroad.

This experience can help you step outside your comfort zone, enabling you to build confidence and communication skills.

You’ll also have the chance to learn about a new culture.

There are many ways you can seize the opportunity to travel abroad. Here are some options to consider:

Take part in an exchange program offered by colleges or universities
Do volunteer work in another country
Apply for a job in another country
Apply for internship programs abroad
Organize short trips with friends or family members to visit different countries

If you’re unable to travel with a parent or guardian, there are other options.

You can reach out to companies, organizations, or agencies that can arrange a work, study, or volunteer placement for you.

10. Volunteer

Volunteering comes with many benefits. According to research, it can increase your happiness levels and enhance your mental well-being.

Plus, it’s a nice way to meet new people and broaden your social network.

And it allows you to give back to your community and support those in need.

There are many different ways for you to take part in local volunteer work. Some common places and organizations that often require the help of volunteers include:

Homeless shelters
Animal shelters
Nursing homes
Hospitals
Food banks
Charitable organizations
Wildlife conservation organizations
Environmental organizations
Libraries

If you want to be a volunteer, here are some steps you can take to get started:

Do research to find opportunities. This can be done through a quick search online. Alternatively, you can ask friends and family who volunteer about available opportunities.
Shortlist your options. You can do more research on the organization to determine if its mission aligns with your values and interests. It’s also best to find out all the details about the position. Examples include the given responsibilities, time commitment, and training required.
Create a résumé. Include your top skills and relevant experiences. Then, submit the résumé to the organizations of your choice.
Complete any required training or assessments. Some organizations may require volunteers to undergo training before participating in volunteer work.

Once you’ve begun volunteering, being professional is important. Even though you might not be getting paid, treat this experience like a real job.

Fulfill all your given roles and tasks well. This will help to increase your impact on your community and could land you references from your supervisors.

11. Study abroad

After graduating from high school, you may have the option to study abroad instead of going to a local college.

There are numerous types of formal study options besides college. This is especially so if you have a special interest or passion, e.g., coding boot camps, niche theater schools, athletic programs.

Studying abroad will give you many opportunities to learn about different cultures.

You’ll also be able to improve your language and communication skills.

The first step to secure the chance to study abroad is to apply for a program overseas. If possible, you can seek advice from a career guidance counselor at your high school. Looking online is another excellent way to discover new opportunities.

You can also contact these universities and colleges to learn more about their programs and scholarships.

Different organizations will have various criteria that you’ll have to meet to get into their program.

Review the details provided to see what documents or assessments are needed to get an offer.

Then, work on preparing these documents and getting the necessary certifications to secure your spot in the program.

12. Learn another language

Learning another language can open more doors for you down the road.

Global companies need people who can speak languages other than English. You’ll also have more career options as someone who is bilingual or multilingual. For example, you can work in customer service or in the translation or hospitality industry.

There are many different ways you can pick up and master a new language.

Language-learning resources are now affordable and easily accessible. In fact, some of the best learning resources and courses out there are free.

There are also apps that can make the learning experience more fun and engaging. Some apps will also connect you to native speakers who can help you to practice your speaking skills.

Watching shows and videos in the language you want to learn is another approach you can try. Alternatively, you can join a physical or online class.

Conclusion

There’s no one path that everyone needs to follow.

While going straight to college is a great choice for many people, it isn’t your only option after graduating from high school.

Reflect on what your natural talents, current skill set, and main interests are. Then, shortlist options that align with them.

And don’t be afraid to get outside your comfort zone. This is where you’ll learn and grow the most, enabling you to have a greater number of meaningful experiences!

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How Teens Can Make Good Decisions Every Single Time (7 Proven Steps)

December 16, 2023 By Daniel Wong 2 Comments

Life is filled with both big and small decisions.

Some, like choosing what to eat for dinner, are pretty straightforward.

Others, for example, the college you will go to, can have a more significant impact on your life.

Research shows that many teens can effectively solve their own problems. Even during this stage of their lives, teens are capable of devising solutions, weighing benefits and risks, and making reasonable choices.

So there’s no need to shy away from making decisions in your life. Sometimes, there might not even be a right or wrong decision.

No matter the situation, each choice you make is a valuable learning opportunity. Over time, you’ll get better at making wise choices.

In this article, I’ll show you a simple 7-step process you can follow to make excellent decisions each time.

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Step #1: Identify the problem

The first step in making good decisions is to identify the root cause of the issue.

You might feel the urge to blame someone else – that’s normal – but it’s important to take responsibility for your actions.

Ask yourself these questions:

Why am I facing this problem?
Did a habit or behavior of mine contribute to it?
What goal am I trying to achieve by solving it?
Is it worth solving, or is it something I should learn to live with?

Let’s say the problem you’re faced with is that you got a bad grade on your recent math exam.

This affects your grade point average, and could even affect your chances of getting into college.

Think about the possible reasons why you got the bad grade.

Perhaps you didn’t have time to prepare as you were training for a sports competition. Or maybe you think math is boring and you often get distracted in class.

Once you’ve found the root cause and identified the problem, you can then decide what to do about it.

Step #2: Brainstorm possible solutions

On the surface, it might seem like there’s only one solution to the issue.

But instead of rushing to make the decision, give it more thought.

Write down the possible solutions that come to mind, no matter how silly they might initially sound.

You’ll likely end up with a list of unique and creative fixes for the problem.

There’s also the option of combining the solutions you’ve come up with. This may help you tackle the issue more effectively, especially if there are two or more root causes.

Let’s go back to the initial example of doing badly on a math exam.

Possible solutions to get better at math might include going to extra classes or doing five practice questions a day.

In addition, you could use an app blocker to reduce the amount of time spent on your phone.

You could also choose to go out less frequently with your friends so you’ll have more time to study.

You could even consider speaking with your teacher about what you can do to understand the material better.

Step #3: Review the pros and cons

After listing all the possible solutions, assess each one of them. Write down the benefits and downsides of each solution.

For example, let’s say you’re reviewing the idea of going out less frequently with your friends so you’ll have more time to study.

The benefit is that you’ll be better prepared for your next exam. But the con is that you might miss out on fun activities and making memories with people you cherish.

Once you’ve listed the pros and cons of each solution, it should make it easier for you to shortlist the best options.

Step #4: Calculate the risks

When you’ve narrowed down your options, you can then proceed to calculate the risks.

Any solution carries some amount of risk, so it’s crucial to take this into account.

You can ask yourself these questions about the solution(s) you plan to implement:

Will this decision help me reach my goals?
What are the risks of making this decision?
What are the risks of not making this decision?
How likely is it for these risks to actually occur?
Will I be hurting anyone else in the process?
Does this decision align with my values?
Is this decision unethical in any way?

Step #5: Use Suzy Welch’s 10-10-10 Rule

If you’re still struggling with a difficult decision, you can use the 10-10-10 Rule.

Ask yourself, “What will the consequences of my actions likely be in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years?”

Let’s say you’re going to take a chemistry exam next week that you need to pass. (You haven’t been studying that hard for the exam.)

But your friends have invited you to go on a hiking trip the day before this important exam.

If you choose to go on the hike with your friends, there will likely be no consequences after 10 minutes.

But if this causes you to fail the exam, you might be held back a grade. This could have an impact 10 months and possibly 10 years down the road.

On the other hand, if you stay home to study and join them another time, your friends might feel disappointed. But they’ll probably be understanding, so it’s unlikely that there will be any ill effects 10 months or 10 years in the future.

So, in this case, staying at home to study is the wiser choice.

Step #6: Make the decision

After doing your analysis, it’s time to make the decision.

You can seek advice or help from people you trust, like your teachers or parents.

Research has shown that emotions can change how we assess our choices, and teens experience more intense emotions than adults. So it’s crucial to stay aware of how your emotions might come into play.

Maybe you’re angry or frustrated, which could cause you to act rashly. Or maybe you’re discouraged, so you feel like sweeping the issue under the rug instead of addressing it.

These emotions are perfectly natural. But they shouldn’t determine the final choice you make.

It’s also a good idea to work out a plan to implement the decision.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

Are any tools, materials, or items needed for me to make this decision?
How will I ensure that I follow through with the decision?
Will I need help from anyone else?

Step #7: Reflect on the results

Every decision has consequences, so after some time has passed, reflect on those consequences.

Ask yourself these questions:

What went well?
What could have gone better?
What could I have done differently?
What principles should I follow when making these types of choices in the future?

If your decision didn’t lead to the desired outcome, you might feel a sense of regret or disappointment.

Acknowledge those emotions – it’s normal to feel that way. Then, gradually let go of them and remind yourself not to dwell on the past.

Also, be sure to show yourself compassion. After all, every decision you make is an opportunity to grow and learn.

Conclusion

Remember that it’s okay to take your time when it comes to making big decisions.

Don’t rush the process.

If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or angry, collect your thoughts.

Once you’re clear-headed and calm again, you’ll be in a position to make the best decision possible, especially if you follow the seven steps outlined in this article!

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Top 10 Tips for School-Life Balance: How to Juggle Studies, Social Life, and Work

Updated on July 14, 2025 By Daniel Wong Leave a Comment

Do you feel like you have too much on your plate?

Between your exams, homework, extracurricular activities, chores, and a part-time job… your schedule is packed.

You feel like you don’t have enough time to sleep and relax.

And you also feel like you don’t have enough time for your friends and family.

School-life balance isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.

Without it, you won’t be a successful or happy student.

By striking a balance, you’ll have more time to pursue your hobbies, improve your health, and connect with the people you love.

You’ll also get better grades while preventing mental and emotional burnout.

The good news is that any student can learn how to create an optimal balance between school, work, and other important things in life.

In this article, I’ll share some of the best tips on how you can achieve this.

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Benefits of school-life balance

Are you constantly feeling stressed or overwhelmed? If so, you probably need to create boundaries in your life.

Besides reducing stress, a healthy school-life balance can lead to some important benefits:

Greater mental clarity: Achieving balance means that you’re getting enough sleep and rest. Sufficient sleep boosts your memory and learning. It also helps your brain to consolidate new memories, helping you to remember what you learn.
Higher productivity: Having school-life balance ensures that you don’t push yourself too hard. Research shows that increasing the number of hours spent working doesn’t increase output beyond a certain point. The lack of a rest day also decreases productivity.
Improved physical health: Attaining school-life balance means that you have time to work on your fitness and health. You’ll have the time and energy to eat healthily and exercise regularly.
Improved mental health: Giving yourself time to rest, play, and hang out with friends and family can reduce stress and anxiety. Regular exercise also builds emotional resilience.
Academic success: Leading a balanced life enables you to be more productive. You’ll be able to focus and absorb information better during class, which will lead to an improvement in your grades.
Greater happiness and fulfillment: You’ll have the time to pursue your interests, serve others, and nurture meaningful relationships.

As a student, one of your main responsibilities is to learn as effectively as you can in school. But this pursuit should never come at the expense of your health and relationships.

How to balance school, work, friends, and family

Working part-time as a student comes with many benefits, besides a paycheck!

You’ll get to explore career options, develop skills, and improve your résumé.

But you’ll burn out quickly if you don’t manage your time and priorities well.

These tips can help you strike a balance between school, work, and your personal life:

1. Prioritize your tasks

Have a daily to-do list of the tasks you plan to complete.

Arrange them based on urgency and how much time they’ll take. Add these commitments to a daily schedule, ensuring you have some buffer time between each item.

Also, make sure to allocate time for rest and family.

2. Set realistic goals

Break down big academic goals and projects into smaller chunks. Make sure that each sub-task is specific and measurable.

For example, you might decide that you’ll read and take notes for chemistry chapter three from 4 to 6 p.m. on Monday.

3. Use time management strategies

Time blocking is an effective method in which you divide your day into smaller segments of time.

Each block is dedicated to one type of work only. You can also group similar tasks into a time block to boost your productivity.

The Pomodoro technique is another strategy I recommend. This technique involves dividing your time into 25-minute blocks of focused work followed by short breaks.

4. Reduce distractions and procrastination

Find a conducive environment in which to study, and turn off all notifications while you’re working.

Ensure your study space is clutter-free by keeping only the required materials and stationery on it.

5. Create clear boundaries and cut-off times

As far as possible, keep to a fixed cut-off time for your work and studies.

For example, you might decide that you’ll stop studying at 9 p.m. each day and that you’ll only handle work-related matters during your shift.

You also need to be aware of your limitations.

If your work is affecting your grades, sleep, or health, consider taking a break or speaking to your employer about working shorter hours.

6. Schedule time for exercise and sleep

The three pillars of health to prioritize as a student are the following:

Diet: Research has found an association between healthy eating and better academic performance. Fruits and vegetables provide nutrients like vitamins C and E, iron, and folate. These nutrients are linked to better thinking skills and school performance. Researchers have also found a link between high consumption of processed foods and sugar with poorer memory and learning.
Sleep: Getting enough sleep can help you remember, store, and apply the information you’ve learned. Scientists have even discovered that sleep can improve memory retention and recall by 20-40%.
Exercise: Regular physical activity can improve focus, attention, memory, and learning. It also boosts your planning and language skills. The World Health Organization recommends that most teenagers engage in at least 60 minutes of moderate or vigorous physical activity a day on average.

7. Be structured about the time spent with your friends

Some students spend too much time hanging out with their friends, while others neglect their social life.

To find balance, decide how much time each week you’ll spend with your friends on average.

For instance, you might decide that you’ll hang out with your friends for 2 to 3 hours outside of school each week on average.

Of course, you might not be able to keep to this all the time. But it’s always better to have a rough guideline in place rather than to make decisions on the spot each time.

8. Participate in productive or meaningful activities with your friends

You can suggest to your friends that you participate in activities together, such as:

Joining the same clubs or extracurricular activities
Working out, hiking, or learning a new sport
Studying and doing assignments
Running errands
Doing volunteer work

Carrying out these activities in a group offers opportunities to build and develop strong friendships.

You’ll also be doing things with your friends that you would have otherwise done alone, so you’ll be saving time.

9. Discuss routines and schedules with your family

Being proactive about discussing the plans for family events, meals, chores, etc., will reduce conflict and stress.

For example, your whole family might commit to having family dinners together at 7 p.m. on Mondays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. You might also have a family outing or activity scheduled every other weekend.

It’s also a good idea to discuss your chores and household responsibilities with your parents.

You can create a family chore chart that lists the tasks each family member is responsible for. For instance, you might be responsible for doing the laundry every Monday and walking the dog every Wednesday.

10. Make the most of your study time

Every student can achieve school-life balance. It just boils down to managing your time, prioritizing, and drawing healthy boundaries.

To study productively, I encourage you to:

Break big tasks down into smaller ones to reduce procrastination
Make sure your environment is distraction-free
At the beginning of each day, create a brief daily plan that lists the specific tasks you intend to complete

You can also experiment with various study techniques, including:

The Feynman technique
Spaced repetition
Flashcards
Mind mapping

Conclusion

As a student, it’s important to set boundaries and keep to them. You might also need to adjust these boundaries over time.

If you’re always tired, stressed, or unhappy, it’s a good time to reflect on how you could attain a better school-life balance.

After all, a happy and healthy student is a productive student!

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