As a parent, you want to raise children who are responsible and self-motivated.
You want them to do well in school, and you want them to communicate with you openly.
You also want to build a happy family.
But I’m sure you’ve already realised that you won’t achieve these goals easily.
Along the way, your children may have become disobedient, rebellious or disengaged. (This is especially likely if your children are pre-teens or teens.)
Your home environment may have become tense or even hostile.
If any of this sounds familiar to you, don’t worry. This article will help.
I don’t claim to be a parenting expert — I’m still learning how to raise my two young boys well.
But over the years I’ve spoken to and worked with thousands of pre-teens and teens. As such, I understand how to get through to them.
In this article, I’ll share with you seven simple questions to ask your children, which will help you to reach your parenting goals.
Question #1: “What can I do to be a better parent?”
The simplest way to become a better parent is to ask your children what they think.
When you ask them Question #1, be prepared for an honest answer.
Your children may point out your flaws.
They may bring up incidents where you were unreasonable or inconsistent.
They may highlight ways in which you haven’t been a good role model.
Is this a scary proposition?
But the feedback you get will be invaluable in helping you to become a more effective parent. [Read more…]