Every teen needs guidance to navigate the challenges of adolescence.
But as a parent, you’ve probably noticed that your teenager often rejects your guidance.
The more you tell your teen what choices he or she ought to make, the less likely your teen is to listen.
So what should you do?
Connect your teen with an experienced coach. A skilled coach and mentor can transform unmotivated teens into motivated and responsible young adults.
These positive changes can ease the tension in your relationship with your teen. For many parents, this is the biggest benefit of finding the right coach.
How should you choose the right coach for your teen?
Every teen has unique challenges to overcome and opportunities to make the most of. So it’s important to look for a coach who has the right combination of skills and experience to meet your teen’s needs.
Here’s what to do first…
Identify the goals to be achieved through coaching
When a coach works with teens, the focus isn’t usually just on academics. If school performance is a concern you have about your teen, a holistic approach is most effective.
A coach can work with your teen to develop the intrinsic motivation needed to do well in school. A coach will also help your teen to develop the mindset and practical skills necessary to thrive.
This process involves many aspects of development for your teen. So it helps to start your search for a coach by listing the main concerns you have about your teenager.
Think about the outcomes you want to achieve through the coaching sessions. Ask yourself questions like:
- Why am I looking for a coach for my teen?
- What do I want my teen to learn through the coaching sessions?
- Which areas does my teen need the most guidance in?
Below are some common areas for improvement that I help my teenage coaching clients to make progress in:
Common area for improvement #1: Motivation
A lack of intrinsic motivation is a common but serious problem that many teenagers struggle with.
A coach can help teens to find the inner drive to learn and improve. As a result, these teenagers will be able to reach their full potential in school and life.
Common area for improvement #2: Responsibility
Do you think your teen sometimes behaves irresponsibly?
If so, you’re not alone.
Teenagers need to learn to make wise decisions, but the desire to do so has to come from within. A coach can help teens shift towards more responsible and mature behavior.
Common area for improvement #3: Sense of purpose
Many teenagers coast through life without a strong sense of purpose.
A lack of direction can lead to frustration for both teens and their parents. It’s difficult for many teens to understand how to make meaningful choices and lead a meaningful life.
At a time when they’re making important decisions about the future, a sense of purpose can guide your teen in the right direction.
A coach can help your teen to cultivate passion and live a life that’s founded on the right values.
Common area for improvement #4: Attitude and mindset
We all know how important it is to develop mental strength. But many teens lack the fortitude to overcome challenges and setbacks.
Coaching can enable teens to become more process-oriented and resilient. Instead of focusing too much on grades or achievement, they’ll learn to find joy in the process of attaining mastery.
As such, they’ll develop a more positive attitude toward school and other areas of life.
Common area for improvement #5: Respect
Respect for authority figures – especially parents – can be dramatically improved through coaching.
You’re probably already aware that teenagers’ disrespectful behavior can damage relationships and cause frustration for everyone involved.
The right coach can help your teen to understand the importance of respect, such that your teen will change his or her behavior for the better.
Common area for improvement #6: Time management
Coaching will equip your teenager with the skills needed to manage his or her time effectively.
Your teen will learn how to reduce procrastination and overcome distractions. Your teen will also learn how to stay organized and prioritize well.
These time management skills will benefit your teenager both in the short term and the long term!
Common area for improvement #7: Study skills
As a parent, you know it can sometimes be hard to get a teen to study.
Some teens lack the motivation to study, while others need more practical support. Coaching addresses both of these issues.
If your teenager doesn’t know how to study effectively, ensure that the coach you engage is able to teach study skills.
Here’s what to look for in a coach…
The right coach is uniquely qualified to guide teens to become motivated, confident, and responsible. The right coach empowers teens to thrive and to maximize their potential.
So what factors should you consider when looking for a coach for your teen?
1. Experience and background
Look for a coach who specializes in working with teens. Choose a coach who has experience working with teens who face similar problems as your teen.
Take a look at the articles and books the coach has written, the videos the coach has published, the interviews the coach has done, the talks the coach has given, etc. These should demonstrate the coach’s knowledge and expertise.
3. Professional development
You’re looking to engage someone who will inspire your teen to grow and develop. So the coach you choose should be an example of someone who embraces lifelong learning. Coaches who continually strive to improve themselves are in the best position to mentor your teenager.
4. Proven results
Read the testimonials and success stories of the coach’s previous clients to see if the coach has a proven track record.
Questions to ask a potential coach
If you’ve found a coach for your teen who seems suitable, here are some questions to ask:
Question #1: What coaching methodology do you use?
Find out how the coach plans to guide your teen toward making positive changes.
What approaches or techniques does the coach use? What is his or her coaching philosophy? What makes his or her approach effective?
Question #2: Do you offer a trial session?
A trial session is a great way to see how well your teen and the coach get along. The better the connection, the more likely it is that your teen will benefit from the coaching sessions.
Question #3: What’s your availability like?
Given your teen’s schedule and commitments, does the coach have available slots to work with your teen? Can the coach start the sessions right away, or is there a waiting list?
Question #4: What’s the structure of the coaching sessions?
Here are some related questions:
- What’s the recommended frequency of the coaching sessions?
- How long is each session?
- Will you provide periodic updates to the parents?
- Do I pay for the sessions one at a time, or do you offer some kind of package?
- What’s your refund policy?
No matter what challenges your teen is currently facing, I hope you’re now convinced that he or she would benefit from coaching.
And after reading this article, I hope you also know how to choose the right coach for your teen.
Over the past decade, I’ve spent thousands and thousands of hours coaching teens 1-to-1. It brings me incredible joy to see my teenage coaching clients become motivated, confident, resilient, purpose-driven, and responsible!
To find out more about the 1-to-1 coaching program I offer for teens, visit this page. Or you can also click the link in the box below…