Everyone struggles with motivation at some point.
Children and teenagers are no exceptions.
If your children start to exhibit signs like worsening grades, a lack of interest in activities, or a tendency toward isolation, your children probably are not lazy.
They may just be dealing with other issues that haven’t been addressed yet.
Thankfully, there are ways to overcome these difficulties and create a healthy environment in which your children can flourish.
In this article, you’ll learn 12 common reasons for your children’s decreased motivation. You’ll also learn how to address these issues both sensitively and effectively.
Let’s get started.
Reason #1: Your child feels overwhelmed or discouraged.
Think about how you deal with overwhelming issues as an adult.
If you don’t know where to start, you focus on small portions of the problem or find a way to look at the issue in a new light.
But children don’t automatically know how to do this.
So when a stressful situation arises, walk your children through the problem.
What’s overwhelming about the issue?
Where should we start?
What are some possible solutions?
These types of probing questions will get your children to examine the problem in a calm manner. By working on the problem together with them, they’ll know that they’re not alone.
Children can also become overwhelmed by discouragement.
Remind your children that failures help them to learn, and that you’re no less proud of them when they experience setbacks. Encouragement is an excellent motivator in children, so offer it freely and often.
Reason #2: There’s an ongoing power struggle between you and your child.
Every parent dreads the infamous battle of the wills. It can play out in many ways when it comes to motivation.
For example, if your children are lagging behind in a particular subject and you deal with the situation in a harsh manner, they may simply shut down.
They may refuse to comply with your requests just to further anger you.
Many parents find that offering choices instead of issuing commands works well as an alternative approach.
For instance, you could ask your child, “Would you like to go to the library and find books on this subject, or would you like to approach your teacher for help?”
This type of question gives your children some freedom, while still pointing them in the right direction. [Read more…]