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15 Essential Life Skills for Teens (Does Your Teen Have Them?)

Updated on November 19, 2025 By Daniel Wong 4 Comments

Do you get nervous thinking about the day your teens will finally move out of the house?

As a parent, your instinct is to shield your children from difficulties and hardship.

So it’s natural to feel concerned about how your teenagers will handle various obstacles in life — especially when you’re miles apart from them.

When that happens, you want them to be well prepared for the challenges that adulthood brings.

The good thing is that it’s never too late to start teaching your teens the life skills they’ll need to thrive in adulthood.

As their parent, you’re in the best position to help them develop the right values and become responsible young adults.

In this article, we’ll talk about 15 important life skills for teens and how you can impart them to your teens.

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1. Time management

Do your teens fall behind on deadlines? Maybe they often leave things to the last minute, causing unnecessary stress and panic.

Effective time management will help your teenagers to stop procrastinating and meet deadlines. Your teens will also be able to get more done in less time.

This will lead to better work-life balance when your teens become adults.

Here are some ways to teach your teens how to manage their time well:

Work with them to plan out a daily and weekly schedule. Encourage them to set enough time aside for homework, chores, and other responsibilities. At the same time, teach them how to balance work, rest, and play.
Provide them with time management tools. Some of these tools may include a digital or written planner, a to-do list, or an app to keep track of events and tasks.
Teach them how to prioritize. Sometimes, a birthday party may clash with a basketball game or music lesson. Help your teens prioritize based on their roles, values, and commitments.

2. Money management

Based on surveys, 75% of young adults would have preferred to learn more finance-related topics in school.

Formal education doesn’t guarantee financial literacy or wisdom. This means that you, as a parent, play a pivotal role in helping your teens learn how to manage their money.

Financial literacy goes a long way in helping your teens avoid debt and build their savings.

You can raise financially-savvy teenagers by following these tips:

Encourage them to cultivate a habit of saving. For instance, when they receive their allowance, you can encourage them to put a portion of it aside for their savings. (Of course, it’s vital that you lead by example in this area too!)
Help them understand that credit doesn’t mean “free money.” Explain to them how credit cards work and how credit card debt can compound quickly over time.
Give them access to budgeting and finance tools. For example, a budget tracker app can help them keep tabs on their expenses.
Introduce them to the concept of insurance. You can relate it to something they’re familiar with, like a car. Explain terms to them such as deductible, premium, exclusions, etc.

3. Decision-making

No one makes the right decision every single time, but you can help your teen make wiser choices in life in general.

Peer influence plays a big role in adolescent decision-making – in both good and bad ways.

Encourage your teens to spend time with friends who have similar beliefs and values. Teach them to establish boundaries and to be brave enough to say no.

Help them weigh the pros and cons of the decisions they’re faced with.

Provide guidance when appropriate, but avoid forcing your opinions on your teenagers. As difficult as it might be, as parents, we must sometimes take the backseat and let them learn from their mistakes.

4. Goal-setting and planning

You might have ambitious teens who dream big.

Structured goal-setting and planning can help your teens unlock their potential. They’ll learn to leverage their talents and strengths to achieve well-defined goals.

Encourage your teens to write down their goals and ambitions. These must be their goals, not the aspirations you wish to fulfill through them.

You can also help them break down a big dream into smaller actionable steps. Ensure that each step toward the goal is measurable and specific.

For instance, if your teen wants to learn Korean, he or she might decide to spend 30 minutes studying the language after dinner every day.

And as long as your teens’ goals are meaningful in some way, do your best to be supportive!

5. Critical thinking

Do your teenagers take things at face value?

If so, encourage them to analyze information and ideas rationally and independently.

That way, your teens can form their own opinions and conclusions that are reasonable and well thought out.

Here’s how you can help your teens practice critical thinking:

Ask them to come up with solutions to real-life problems.
Ask them open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.”
Give them opportunities to make important decisions. For example, would they like to spend the summer break volunteering or attending an educational camp?

6. Adaptability and resilience

How can you help your teens adapt quickly to change and bounce back from rough times?

Here are some tips to try:

Encourage your teens to pursue new experiences. For instance, they could try out a new sport or join a club.
Help your teens to focus on the positive aspects of change rather than dwelling on disappointments.
Remind your teens to be aware of their inner monologue and how they speak to themselves.
Encourage your teens to devise solutions to problems and weigh out the pros and cons of each one.
Help your teenagers form healthy connections with friends, family members, counselors, and coaches. These people will be able to provide your teenagers with support and guidance.

7. Becoming a self-directed learner

Many teenagers have the mindset that they have to finish their schoolwork and projects.

This isn’t entirely their fault. They’ve learned to think this way due to the punishments or consequences they face – typically at school – if they don’t complete the work.

But having this mindset means that your teens may only finish their tasks and fulfill their responsibilities when someone is coercing them to.

So what you can do instead is to encourage your teenagers to be proactive and self-directed learners.

Help them to see the inherent meaning and purpose behind what they’re currently working on, beyond the outcome they’re trying to achieve.

Encourage them to explore various learning resources and platforms on their own. And provide them with tools to monitor the progress they’re making, such as apps like Lifetick or GoalsOnTrack.

8. Resourcefulness

When your teens face setbacks in life, do they often give up?

Instead of quitting, help them to become more resourceful. Show them how to broaden their horizons when they’re trying to find a way through an obstacle.

Can an organization, professional, or family member offer guidance?

Or can they take a course or use an online tool that might help?

Give your teens opportunities to make significant decisions. Encourage them to reflect on the mistakes they’ve made.

9. Communication

As teenagers develop good communication skills, they’ll be able to convey their thoughts and opinions more clearly.

They’ll also learn to listen more effectively. This can help to prevent unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings.

To enable your teens to improve their communication skills, you can:

Make time to communicate with your teens. Create opportunities for two-way interactions with your teens. This may involve setting up a no-phone rule at the dinner table or scheduling weekly family time to catch up, etc.
Teach your teens the importance of body language in conversations. You can explain to them specific undesirable body language cues (e.g. no eye contact, crossed arms, poor posture).
Emphasize the importance of active listening. Model this whenever your teens or anyone else speaks to you. Teach your teens the key principles of active listening.

10. Emotional intelligence and self-awareness

Your teens may have trouble understanding their emotions. They may also be unaware of how their moods and actions impact the feelings of others.

With greater emotional intelligence, your teens will cultivate empathy and build stronger relationships.

To build your teens’ emotional intelligence, create a safe atmosphere at home where they can talk openly about their emotions, fears, anxieties, etc.

Instead of sweeping their feelings under the rug, validate their emotions through active listening.

11. Leadership and teamwork

The strength of the team is each member. The strength of each member is the team.

– Phil Jackson, former NBA Coach of the Year

It’s essential that your teens learn to lead and to work in a team.

Here’s how you can help your teens to foster collaborative relationships with others:

Teach them to be accountable for their actions. Create a culture of accountability in your home by setting up rules and boundaries. Involve your teens in the process of creating these rules and boundaries.
Give them opportunities to negotiate. Invite your teens to share their ideas and opinions. Leave room for negotiation in instances when you don’t see eye-to-eye with them.
Establish a culture of celebrating other people’s successes. Model for your teens how to support, motivate, and encourage others sincerely.
Teach them to resolve conflicts effectively. Share with them strategies to stay calm in the middle of tense situations. Show them how to disagree respectfully.

12. Empathy and compassion

Teens who have more empathy will be able to build healthier relationships with others.

Here’s how you can empower your teens to develop this valuable life skill:

Create a safe space for them to talk about their feelings and experiences.
Ask them what they notice about another person’s facial expressions or body language.
Remind them to show honor to others, even in the midst of disagreements and conflicts.
Encourage them to volunteer and serve others – you can join them too!

13. Healthy habits and self-care

One of the most important life skills for young adults is knowing how to take care of their physical and mental health.

You can try the following:

Set an example by practicing good sleep hygiene, e.g. putting away your electronic devices an hour before bed, having a relaxing bedtime routine.
Take your teens to their routine health check-ups.
Exercise together with them.
Teach them basic cooking skills.
Show them how to read nutritional labels.

While physical health is important, mental health shouldn’t be overlooked.

According to the World Health Organization, half of all mental health conditions in adulthood begin by age 14.

Here’s how you can help your teens to prioritize their mental well-being:

Destigmatize counseling and mental health support.
Help them create a self-care routine.
Spend 1-on-1 time with them regularly so you can find out how they’re really doing.
Learn and practice relaxation techniques (e.g. deep breathing exercises, art therapy) with them.

14. Basic first aid and emergency preparedness

All teenagers should know how to navigate emergencies. These skills could save their life or someone else’s.

Here’s what you can do:

Encourage them to attend basic first aid training (and join in if you can).
Provide them with personal safety tools and teach them how to use the tools. Personal safety apps like Noonlight can be helpful.
Encourage them to have trusted family members or friends saved as emergency contacts.
Educate them on how to respond to fires, natural disasters, etc.

15. Basic home maintenance skills

Teens without the necessary home maintenance skills may become stressed and overwhelmed when such situations arise.

Get your teenagers involved in basic housekeeping tasks. Teach them to use common household appliances, such as a washing machine and dryer.

It’s a good idea to teach your teens how to:

Clean the gutters
Reset the circuit breaker
Cut off the water supply
Hang shelves
Fix a leaky faucet
Unclog a sink or toilet

Get your teens involved in basic home maintenance tasks as early as possible.

You’ll be teaching them valuable skills that will come in handy when they’re living on their own!

Conclusion

Many valuable life skills can’t be picked up by reading a textbook.

As much as you want your teenagers to get good grades in school, it’s also important for them to become responsible and independent young adults.

By equipping them with the right skills, they’ll be headed down this path!

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How to Make Studying Fun: 12 Tips to Enjoy Your Study Sessions

Updated on September 30, 2024 By Daniel Wong 16 Comments

Does studying feel like a chore to you?

If you feel unmotivated, bored, or anxious when it comes to studying, you’re not alone.

Studying does have its benefits. It helps you to get good grades, learn new things, and build much-needed life skills for teens and young adults.

And while balance is extremely important, studying will always be a core part of student life.

The good news is that any student can learn to make studying productive and fun.

Yes, you read that right. Studying can be fun! In fact, you can learn how to get into a flow state and make time fly as you work on your assignments.

Let’s explore ways to make studying more enjoyable.

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Tip #1: Stop saying “I have to study”

At times, we may not be attentive enough to the words we say to ourselves. But these words can shape how we view ourselves and the situations in our lives.

The next time you have an upcoming exam, observe how you speak to yourself about it.

You might say something like, “I have to study for the exam.” Once you say this, your brain is wired to think about studying as a chore you have to do – rather than something you choose to do.

What should you say instead?

Replace “have to” with either “choose to” or “get to.”

When you say “I choose to study for the exam,” it’s a reminder that nobody is putting a gun to your head and forcing you to study. It’s a decision that you get to make.

And when you say “I get to study for the exam,” you’re reminding yourself that there are millions of children and teenagers around the world who want to go to school, but who don’t have the opportunity to.

Tip #2: Remind yourself that grades aren’t what matter most

As a student, it’s easy to become too focused on your grades.

That’s understandable. There’s satisfaction you derive from seeing your test scores go up or from getting compliments from your teachers and parents.

Getting good grades is a positive goal and it’s something worth working toward. But it isn’t the only important part of your student life.

Becoming fixated on grades will only lead to unnecessary stress. This will hurt your academic performance too.

It’s the process of learning from your mistakes and improving that matters in the long run.

Tip #3: Study in shorter blocks

Do you find that your concentration wanes after 45 or 60 minutes of studying?

Pushing yourself to study for long stretches at a go takes the joy out of learning.

A practical study tip is to break down your study sessions into shorter blocks.

You can implement a method called the Pomodoro technique. This technique is a simple yet effective tool for focused work.

Here’s how you can apply it during your study sessions:

Set a specific task for your study session.
Set a timer for 25 minutes.
Work on the task until the timer rings.
Take a five-minute break. (Set a timer for the break too.)
Repeat the steps listed above.
Take a longer break of 15-30 minutes every four rounds.

Of course, you can experiment with the exact length of each study session to find what works best for you. An app like the Productivity Challenge Timer can also help you in this process.

Tip #4: Write down the tasks and assignments you’ve completed

We’ve all heard of a to-do list, but here’s another type of list you should keep: a “done” list.

Keep a record of the tasks and assignments you’ve completed. You can organize these tasks based on their completion date.

But how does a “done” list help? It reminds you to give yourself a pat on the back for what you’ve accomplished.

Keeping a “done” list will make you feel more motivated.

It will also allow you to keep track of the tasks you’ve finished – just in case you can’t remember what’s been completed and what’s still pending.

Tip #5: Cultivate a sense of curiosity

If you want to enjoy studying, you need to go beyond surface-level learning.

Yes, a significant part of studying involves reading the materials given to you and memorizing important bits of information.

But this gets boring pretty fast, doesn’t it?

So try this instead…

Ask yourself questions throughout the learning process. It’s an effective way to pick up new concepts.

This study found that participants who asked themselves questions and answered them during the learning process learned the material better.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself while studying:

How is this new concept related to what I already know?
How can this information be applied in the real world?
What are some real-life examples of this theory in action?
How was this concept or theory discovered?

If you run into a question you can’t answer, a quick online search is likely to yield an answer.

Tip #6: Get creative with your notes

You can use digital note-taking apps to make your notes more enjoyable to read. For instance, you can add colors, diagrams, icons, and creative fonts to a digital canvas.

If you prefer taking notes with pen and paper, try using colorful highlighters or markers to draw your attention to the key points.

This study suggests that color coding can improve your attention and memory when studying. It can also enhance how your brain processes and organizes information.

Mindmaps are another way to bring your notes to life.

Mindmaps are diagrams that represent concepts and ideas. Mindmaps demonstrate how these concepts and ideas are linked to a central topic and each other.

Mindmaps can encourage intuitive learning by structuring the information clearly.

Tip #7: Invest in stationery you love

If you love the stationery you use while studying, the process of studying will become more fun.

You might choose to invest in stationery like:

Special highlighters
Uniquely-shaped paperclips
Washi tape
Colorful sticky notes

You can also make note-taking more exciting by using cool notebooks and pens that are nice to write with.

Tip #8: Find a motivated study group

One way to stay on track academically is to study with friends who share the same goals as you. These study sessions can be done online or in person.

Study groups work because accountability can play a huge role in enabling you to form the right study habits.

Start by deciding when you’ll study together on a weekly basis. Then, you can keep each other accountable by encouraging everyone to show up for each study session.

Group study sessions help to break the monotony of studying. Through these sessions, you’ll learn from your friends and you’ll get to compare notes too.

Tip #9: Listen to music (but be wise about your music choices)

Listening to music can help to reduce stress. It can also improve concentration and enhance learning.

But you need to be cautious when curating your study playlist.

Not all kinds of music are helpful. Certain types of music can be distracting.

Loud and fast music (especially songs with lyrics) can reduce focus. In contrast, soft and slow background music without lyrics can improve focus.

Experiment with different playlists to find what works best for you.

Tip #10: Integrate interactive learning materials into your study plan

Sticking to just one learning format can become tiresome and boring. That’s why it’s a good idea to mix things up!

So, why not explore different formats and modes of learning?

If you have access to the internet, there are thousands of free resources at your fingertips.

These resources might come in the form of:

Video lessons
Interactive lectures
Printable worksheets
Learning apps and games
Downloadable resource kits
Online quizzes
Online and printable flashcards
Digital guides

Use at least a couple of these types of learning materials to make your study sessions more interesting.

Tip #11: Use apps that make it fun to focus

Here are a few apps I recommend:

Study Bunny: This app comes with a study tracker and focus timer. You’ll get a virtual study buddy bunny that you can customize with the coins you earn.
Habitica: This app uses in-game rewards to help you build good habits and stay consistent.
Forest: In this app, each time you start a focused study session, you plant a virtual tree that keeps growing as long as you stay on task. You can use the coins you earn to make a donation to plant a real tree.

Tip #12: Make your own flashcards

Flashcards incorporate both words and pictures to help you actively recall information.

How do flashcards work?

One side of the flashcard has a question, and the flip side has the answer. After you read the question, say your answer out loud before flipping over the flashcard to see if you got it right.

For example, one side of the flashcard could say, “What type of organisms are bacteria?”

The flip side could say, “Prokaryotes.”

Using flashcards is a better approach than just passively reading the textbook or notes.

You can make your own flashcards by using index cards or regular paper cut into smaller pieces.

Alternatively, you can use an app like Quizlet or Anki. These apps come with pre-made and customizable digital flashcards that cover a wide range of subjects.

Conclusion

Many students find studying to be boring, stressful, and tedious.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Studying can be fun. It all depends on the mindset you have and how you approach each study session.

Take a couple of the tips in this article and apply them in the coming week. I’m sure you’ll start to enjoy the learning process more!

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Teaching Values to Teens: 8 Ways to Build Character in Your Teens

Updated on February 5, 2024 By Daniel Wong 6 Comments

Do you wonder if your teen is maturing and developing well?

As a parent, you love your children unconditionally. But they don’t always display the values and character traits you wish they would.

If you’re frustrated by your teenagers’ bad attitude, irresponsible behavior, impatience, or lack of motivation…

… it’s a common situation that parents find themselves in.

You can still help your teens to grow into caring, courageous, and confident adults who contribute to society.

One of the best ways to ensure this is to teach your teens the right values.

Values help teens make better decisions, focus on positive goals, and take responsibility for their actions. They act as an internal compass to guide your teens’ choices and behavior.

How do values do all of this? By boosting intrinsic motivation.

This type of motivation can transform your teens’ approach to school, work, friendships, and family life.

For example, teens who value self-discipline and knowledge will study because it’s meaningful to work hard and learn new things. They won’t study just to get an A or avoid punishment.

To give your teens the best chance at finding fulfillment and success, follow these tips to help them develop the right values.

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Tip #1: Model the values you want your teen to have

This tip might seem obvious. But your actions and words greatly influence your teenagers’ behavior, attitude, and beliefs.

How you respond to a stressful event or approach an argument influences how your teens will react when they face a similar situation.

For example, it’s important to stay calm when explaining to your teens why you felt frustrated that they didn’t finish their chores.

By talking calmly to your teens – instead of shouting – you’re demonstrating that respect is a value that matters to you.

Other examples of how to model certain values for your teens include:

Self-discipline: Having a morning routine, always being punctual, eating healthily, exercising regularly.
Generosity: Giving to those in need, helping neighbors, doing favors without expecting anything in return.
Excellence: Putting aside distractions and focusing on the task at hand, doing small things (like making your bed) well, going the extra mile to serve and help others
Integrity: Owning up to mistakes, not blaming others, not lying even if it affects you negatively, not cutting corners.

Tip #2: Be aware of teachable moments

Teachable moments are opportunities to help your teens learn valuable lessons.

Most teachable moments occur when your teens have made a mistake.

Keep an eye out for these moments because you can use them to show your teens how to live out their values in practical ways.

A teachable moment is not the time to give a lecture. Your teens probably already know that they’ve messed up.

As a parent, you can help your teens to identify habits and behaviors that go against their values.

For example, if your teen is frustrated with himself for not doing well on an exam, you can listen to him as he shares his feelings. Refrain from criticizing or lecturing him.

Understand what values matter to him. Help him to see if there is a gap between his actual habits and his ideal habits, based on the kind of person he wants to become.

Discuss with him ways that he can ensure that his future behavior will be aligned with his values.

When you recognize these teachable moments, you can use them to help your teens become more resilient, confident, and persistent.

Tip #3: Regularly discuss values at home

Talk about your values and the values you admire in others.

While you can’t force teens to share your values, you can help them to think about what values matter most to them.

How do they want to be treated, and how do they treat others? How do they decide what to do in tough situations?

Periodically share with them what’s most important to you and why. This will highlight the role of values in living a purposeful and fulfilling life.

Here are a few approaches you can try:

Ask your teens about their values. You could bring up the topic over dinner or when your teens seem relaxed. Ask them about what kind of person they want to become.
Ask your teens about how they view the role of values in family, society, etc. Take the time to understand their opinions and perspectives.
Discuss the values demonstrated in various shows, videos, games, etc. Don’t cast judgment on your teens’ hobbies or preferences. Instead, have an open conversation with them about the values demonstrated in various shows, videos, games, etc. and whether those values have an influence on them.

Tip #4: Volunteer together with your teen

Getting out into the community and volunteering with your teens is a way to put values into practice.

Your teens will learn about compassion, gratitude, and being of service to others.

In addition, volunteering can improve health, boost confidence, and provide your teens with an opportunity to learn new skills.

The right volunteering opportunity will also connect your teens with others who share similar values.

What’s more, doing volunteer work with your teens allows you to spend quality time together.

Of course, you can’t force your teens to volunteer if they really don’t want to. But hopefully, they’ll at least see the joy and meaning you find in volunteering.

Here are some volunteering opportunities you could explore with your teenagers:

Helping out at an animal shelter
Distributing food at a food bank
Volunteering at a library
Tutoring underprivileged children
Cleaning up parks and playgrounds

Tip #5: Support your teen during tough times

Adolescence is full of challenges. Here are some statistics to illustrate the issues teens face:

19% of students have experienced bullying at school
14.9% of teens have experienced cyberbullying
12.8% of youths aged 12 to 17 have experienced major depressive episodes

As a parent, it’s important not to write your teens’ issues off as “childish” or “just a phase.” To find healthy ways to handle and overcome these issues, your teens will need your support.

When you go through challenging times yourself, share with your teenagers what you’re learning and how you’re growing as a person.

Resilience helps teens recover from setbacks and failures in life. It also enables teens to counteract stress and develop confidence in their abilities.

Tip #6: Recognize when your teen demonstrates good values

When your teens demonstrate good values, acknowledge their growth.

If your teens volunteer at an animal shelter over the weekend, drive them there if you can and ask them about the experience when they get home.

If your teens spend a few hours picking up litter at a park, drop by with drinks and snacks for them.

Your teens will realize that showing kindness and serving others are intrinsically meaningful.

And when you praise your teens for displaying good values, make sure to focus on praising the process rather than the outcome.

Tip #7: Look out for who is influencing your teen

You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn

Do you know who your teens hang out with? Do their friends display good values and behavior?

Here are some ways to reduce the likelihood that your teens will give in to negative influences:

Have honest and open conversations with your teens. Share your thoughts and concerns with your teenagers, while making it clear that you know you can’t completely control who they hang out with.
Refraining from saying bad things about your teens’ friends. Even if you dislike your teens’ friends, don’t criticize them harshly because your teens probably won’t take it well.
Help your teens to see situations as they are. For example, if you’ve noticed that your daughter’s friend frequently insults her, talk to her about setting healthy boundaries.
Get to know your teens’ friends and their families. Invite your teens’ friends to spend time at your house, and have their families come over for a meal too.

Tip #8: Share your experiences (without lecturing!)

Do you remember the challenges you faced as a teen? Throughout your life, what experiences helped you develop your core values?

Share such experiences with your teens.

Tell your teenagers about the values that are closest to your heart. Describe how you’ve been trying to live out those values in practical ways.

And show your teens how this journey of embodying those values has made your life richer and more fulfilling.

Conclusion

Values are the bedrock of your teenagers’ development.

The values they embrace will determine their choices and habits.

By instilling the right values in your teens, they’ll naturally become confident and responsible teens who lead purposeful lives!

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How to Study Productively: 14 Tips to Maximize Your Effort and Time

Updated on December 17, 2024 By Daniel Wong 4 Comments

Do you want to get more studying done in less time?

Of course, you do.

But it’s the night before your exams. You’ve been seated at your study table for three long hours. But you’ve hardly made progress.

There are too many distractions: social media, text messages, snacks, and videos.

You’ve revisited the same paragraph five times and still have no idea what it’s about. No matter how hard you try, you can’t absorb anything you read.

Frustrating, isn’t it?

Being able to study efficiently is the key to improved performance and a better school-life balance.

If you study productively, you’ll have time to relax, hang out with friends and family, and do other things you love!

The powerful strategies in this article will help you deal with productivity killers like procrastination and burnout.

Let’s get started!

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Tip #1: Record yourself on camera while studying

Using your phone’s camera to record yourself makes it seem like someone is watching you as you study.

That might sound a bit creepy, but you’ll be less likely to give in to distractions. And you’ll be more likely to stick to your study plan.

Give this tip a try during your next study session!

Tip #2: Study with an online accountability partner

Have you ever had a study session with friends?

Group study sessions work for some people, but not everyone.

A tool like Focusmate can come in handy in these situations. With Focusmate, you’ll be paired with a real-life accountability partner (who’s a stranger) online.

During each session, you’ll both work independently on your own tasks. At the same time, you’ll leave your camera and audio on so you can see and hear each other.

No hanging out or chatting is allowed while you’re both working.

Your accountability partner can report you if you’re late, don’t show up, or goof off during the session. If your compliance score falls too low, you may be booted off the system.

This is a great way to establish accountability while you study!

Other similar platforms include Study Together and Fiveable.

Tip #3: Create a study plan for each week

A study plan helps you clarify your goals for the week.

Something vague like “study chemistry” isn’t going to cut it. Instead, include enough details so you can track your progress along the way.

For example, “read chemistry notes for chapters 1 to 5 and create flashcards for all equations” is much better as a target to achieve for chemistry for the week.

Focus on the bigger picture. Plan out your week in terms of the specific work you need to complete by the end of the week.

If you have a clear and specific weekly plan, you’ll be less likely to procrastinate because you know exactly where to start.

Tip #4: Create a plan for each study session

This is an excellent method to help you focus while studying.

Before you start the study session, write down the tasks you want to work on during the session.

For example, your plan could list the following tasks:

Read chapter 1 of math textbook
Create summary notes for chapter 1
List formulas to memorize for chapter 1
Do online quiz for chapter 1

You can leave this written plan on your desk as a reminder of what you’re aiming to accomplish.

Tip #5: Create a study-friendly environment

Reducing clutter and distractions creates a conducive environment to study in.

Studies have found that a cluttered desk increases stress. It can also negatively affect productivity and reduce motivation.

So it’s a good idea to keep only the items, books, and materials you’ll need on your desk for each task.

For example, keep only a calculator, pen, pencil, eraser, and the assignment on your table while doing your math homework. If your desk is untidy, take a few minutes to organize it before you start studying.

Keeping your desk clutter-free is one piece of the puzzle. The next step is to keep it distraction-free.

In this study, researchers found that more smartphone use led to lower productivity. (No surprise there, right?)

Smartphone use may interfere with how well your brain engages with the material you’re studying. Smartphone use can also make your tasks less enjoyable and harder to complete.

So if you’re frequently distracted by your digital devices, put them away while you study. You can place them in a different room or you can turn them off completely.

Tip #6: Block out distracting sounds with headphones

Wearing headphones or earphones helps to reduce distractions and reminds you that you’re in the middle of a study session.

Doing this also lets other people know you’re busy. As such, they’ll be less likely to interrupt you.

If you really don’t enjoy listening to music while studying, you can still wear headphones or earphones without any music playing.

That being said, listening to music while studying can improve your focus and mood. Research shows that listening to music can reduce mind-wandering.

Classical music is a good place to start. But if you don’t like classical music, check out Brain.fm. This platform offers music designed to help you create and maintain deep focus.

Tip #7: Take deep breaths before each study session

This research study found that breathing exercises increase alertness. They can also reduce stress, anger, and confusion.

By regulating your breathing, you can lower your levels of a stress hormone called cortisol. You’ll also get more oxygen flowing to your brain, thus improving your focus and mood.

Here’s how to get started with a simple breathing exercise before your next study session:

Close your eyes
Breathe in through your nose for four seconds
Breathe out through your mouth for four seconds
Repeat this three times

Bonus tip: Try this right before bed to fall asleep faster!

Tip #8: Write down any distracting thoughts

Part of learning how to study productively involves finding a strategy to deal with distractions.

As much as you can try to reduce distractions, they’ll still occur. What’s crucial is how you deal with them when they do.

Here’s what you can do the next time distraction comes knocking on your door…

Write it down.

Let me explain. Let’s say you’re studying for a biology test. Out of the blue, you feel the urge to search for a new show to watch during your leisure time.

You know this will lead you down a rabbit hole. And you can’t afford for that to happen now. So write down “look for new show” on a piece of paper, then go back to studying.

Every time a distracting thought pops into your head, write it down. Then during your next study break, go ahead and “do” the items or activities written on the piece of paper.

Why does this technique work?

Because you’ve acknowledged your urge without giving in to it. With that, your brain can redirect its focus back to what you were doing.

Tip #9: Follow a routine

You’re not alone if you have trouble getting motivated to study.

That’s where following a routine helps. When you establish a routine, it becomes easier for you to get started on your tasks.

Routines empower you to form beneficial, long-lasting study habits.

Let’s say you want to create a timeslot for studying or homework in your schedule. In this case, your routine might be: “Study from 5 pm to 6:30 pm every weekday.”

If this feels too restrictive, start by following the routine for just a couple of days each week. For instance, you could start with only Wednesdays and Thursdays.

With a well-established routine, you won’t have to rely on motivation to get started. You’ll get started simply because it’s a part of your routine.

That said, developing a cue will make your routine even more effective.

What’s a cue?

A cue signals to your brain, “Hey, it’s time to get moving!” It creates an impulse to act.

Researchers have found that cues are a vital part of habit formation.

You can create a cue by associating a specific behavior or place with starting a study session. Some examples include:

Hanging a sign on your door that says “Study session in progress”
Putting on your noise-canceling headphones
Going to the library
Placing your electronic devices in another room
Brewing a cup of tea

Find a cue that works for you. Then you’ll realize that it isn’t so hard to get started on your schoolwork after all!

Tip #10: Limit your study hours

This probably isn’t the advice you’d expect. After all, isn’t studying more the secret to succeeding in school?

I always encourage students to study smart. Here’s how you can study effectively and get better grades in school: Get enough sleep.

According to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, those between the ages of 13 and 18 should sleep 8 to 10 hours per day.

Doing so improves concentration and reduces the risk of health problems. It also enhances memory and facilitates learning.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t work hard. But it’s also important to lead a balanced life.

Set a strict deadline to stop studying each day, e.g. 9:30 pm. Then make sure you don’t do any work after that time.

Setting a fixed end time like this establishes a firm boundary, so you’ll be far more likely to get all your work done before then.

Tip #11: Time your study sessions and breaks

Does your focus dwindle after a long study session?

Here’s how to study productively: Take a 5- to 10-minute break every 30 to 45 minutes.

Time your study sessions so you know when to take a break. Likewise, time your breaks so you know when to start studying again.

You don’t want to fall into the trap of procrastination or losing track of time.

To avoid this, set the alarm to go off when it’s time to get back to work.

Tip #12: Prepare a pre-study session checklist

Checklists ensure you don’t miss any steps in an important process.

Pilots, astronauts, and surgeons use checklists to ensure that things go smoothly.

In the same way, you (or your parents) might bring a list to the grocery store to make sure you get everything you need.

Checklists are a practical tool to help you as you learn how to study productively. Plus, they’ll enable you to stay organized as a student.

So what should you put in your pre-study session checklist?

You can include some of the following:

Set up study space
Place devices in another room
Fill a bottle of water
Set up timer
Hang up “do not disturb” sign
Turn on study music

Tip #13: Sit straight and maintain good posture

Research shows that good posture improves mood and productivity. At the same time, it reduces your risk of injury.

Here are some posture tips if you spend hours each day sitting at a desk:

Keep your feet flat on the floor
Sit with a straight back
Your knees should be at the same level as your hips
Keep your shoulders and neck relaxed

Here’s a related tip: Whenever you take a study break, move around. Do some squats or some jumping jacks. This approach is called “exercise snacking” and has loads of health benefits.

Also, do your best to avoid studying in bed. You can’t maintain good posture while lying in bed, and you might just fall asleep accidentally!

Tip #14: Break big tasks into smaller ones

Most people get overwhelmed by big and complex tasks. This can cause you to become demotivated.

The trick is to break big projects into smaller, more manageable chunks.

For example, you could break a physics poster presentation down into the following sub-tasks:

Read chapter 1 and 2
Summarize the main points
Research new points to include
Plan out the sub-headings for the poster
Plan out content to include in bullet points
Write the paper
Decorate the poster
Write the presentation script in bullet points
Flesh out the presentation script
Practice the presentation three times from start to end

There’s no need to write down all the sub-tasks at one go. Just make sure that you always know what the next sub-task to work on is.

Conclusion

Productive studying is a skill any student can master.

The tips in this article will help you maximize the progress you make during each study session.

Choose two or three strategies from the list and implement them in the coming week. After you get used to applying those strategies, pick a couple more to add to your study routine.

Eventually, you’ll learn how to get into a flow state when studying.

It’ll be worth the effort, I promise!

I encourage you to get started today. 🙂

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My Teenager Hates Me: What Can I Do as a Parent?

Updated on January 7, 2026 By Daniel Wong 1 Comment

Have you ever thought to yourself, “My teenager hates me”?

It’s more common than you might think for teens to say that they hate their parents.

As your teenager moves through adolescence, you may be on the receiving end of harsh words.

You may even feel like your teenager doesn’t want to spend time with family.

This can leave you feeling unappreciated, frustrated, and angry.

So what can you do to change your teen’s hurtful behavior and address your teen’s unmet emotional needs?

Learning some new parenting strategies is an excellent start.

The tips in this article will help you build a better and more respectful relationship with your teen.

Let’s start by exploring some common reasons why teens become angry with their parents.

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Why do teenagers hate their parents?

Through the thousands of hours I’ve spent coaching teens 1-to-1, I’ve gained valuable insights into this issue.

I’ve uncovered common themes in what teenagers find annoying and frustrating about their parents.

Below is a list of the most common complaints I’ve heard from teens about their parents:

Reason #1: Their parents frequently remind them not to waste their potential

Telling teens that they aren’t living up to their potential may seem like a good idea – but it can have an adverse effect.

Teenagers often feel like a failure if they’re on the receiving end of this type of comment. It also leads teens to believe that their parents’ love is dependent on how successful they are.

Here’s what to do instead…

Without nagging or lecturing your teens, encourage them to reflect on their current situation. Help them to gain self-awareness without criticizing or reprimanding them. Ask them gently about what they plan to do to make progress.

Don’t forget to celebrate small wins along the way. You can also make positive comments to acknowledge your teens’ effort when they work hard or implement good study habits, regardless of the outcome.

Reason #2: Their parents overreact to small mistakes

We all make mistakes. It’s a part of how we learn and grow.

But the way you respond to your teens’ mistakes can cause problems.

For example, your teenager might have lost track of time while hanging out with his friends. He’s now late in getting home, and you’re annoyed.

It’s important to take a step back and respond rather than react.

You can do this by first asking your teen why he’s late. Once you understand the situation better, you can then discuss strategies with him to prevent the same thing from happening in the future.

For example, he might decide to set an alarm on his phone as a reminder for him to start heading home.

The key is to not overreact. If you frequently overreact, it will create emotional distance between you and your teen.

Reason #3: Their parents continually criticize and nag them

When raising teenagers, there will be opportunities for you to provide constructive criticism. Nevertheless, no one enjoys receiving constant criticism.

If you continually criticize your teens, it will hurt their self-esteem. Your teens might even become convinced that it’s impossible to live up to your expectations.

Try replacing negative comments with acknowledgments of your teens’ progress. Make a positive comment whenever you observe your teens trying hard or behaving responsibly.

This is a fantastic way to motivate your teenagers and show them that you’re their biggest supporter.

Reason #4: Their parents overemphasize academic achievement

Academics are important. But they aren’t the only aspect of your teens’ life worth discussing.

Rather than only asking your teens questions related to school, focus on building a connection with them. Try starting conversations by talking about things that your teens are interested in.

Find out more about what they like and dislike, and about what their perspective is on various issues.

The deeper the connection you have with your teens, the more likely it is that you’ll be able to influence them when it counts.

Reason #5: They feel disrespected by their parents

Nobody likes to be talked down to or treated disrespectfully.

Even though you have more knowledge and experience than your teenagers, avoid being condescending.

Think back to when you were a teenager. You probably thought you knew better than your parents, so don’t be surprised if your teens think they know better than you!

So treat your teens with respect, if not it’ll be hard for you to expect the same kind of treatment from them.

Reason #6: They feel as if their interests aren’t valued

As individuals, we all have unique interests. These are things that spark our curiosity or inspire us. It’s what makes us who we are.

Parents often overlook the things that matter to their teenagers. When you continually focus on how your teens are doing in their academics or sports, they may feel like you’re not treating them as people.

They may feel like you’re treating them as a project.

So try to not be dismissive of things that are important to your teens, but which you might think are a waste of time, e.g. gaming, shows, social media.

The more you get to know your teen, the more they will understand how much you care about them.

Reason #7: They feel pressured to pursue their parents’ dreams

As a parent, it can be tempting to view your teens as younger versions of yourself.

You work hard to provide opportunities for your teens to do things you couldn’t do when you were younger. Perhaps you overemphasize a certain career path or extracurricular interest.

But I encourage you not to do this. If you do, it will only end with frustration and disappointment.

Don’t pressure your teenagers to pursue your dreams.

Your teens have their own identities and interests. You need to respect their individuality and support them as they work toward goals they find meaningful.

Reason #8: Their parents refuse to apologize when they’re wrong

One of the reasons your teenagers may hate you is that you never – or almost never – apologize.

As a parent, it can be tough to admit when you’re wrong. The truth is, anyone you’ve harmed through your words or actions deserves an apology.

If you’re in the wrong or you’ve messed up, acknowledge it to your teens.

Apologizing takes courage, but it models responsible behavior for your teenagers. It can inspire them to do the same when faced with a similar situation.

Reason #9: Their parents don’t include them in the decision-making process

As teens get older, they’ll start to test existing boundaries. This is normal! Teens are in the process of figuring out who they are and taking steps toward independence.

As such, it only makes sense to include your teens in setting rules and boundaries.

This doesn’t mean you should become a pushover. Working in collaboration to establish healthy boundaries is beneficial to both parents and teens.

An additional bonus is that your teen will see that you’re willing to negotiate.

For example, let’s say you want to set a curfew. This will give you peace of mind while also teaching your teen the importance of responsibility.

You can sit down together and decide on an appropriate time. As a parent, you have the final say, but the goal is to have a respectful discussion.

By involving teens in the decision-making process, you empower them to be more responsible. At the same time, they’ll also develop negotiation skills.

Reason #10: Their parents don’t really listen to them

The best person to answer the question, “Why does my teenager hate me?” is your teenager. If you listen carefully, you’ll come to understand why he or she feels resentful or frustrated.

Listening is one of the greatest gifts you can give your teenager.

Some teenagers go through a phase where they spend more time alone as they deal with difficult issues. This reluctance to open up can cause them to be misunderstood.

As a parent, it’s important to learn specific strategies for how to talk to teens. Invite them to open up and listen without judgment when they do. The key is to go beyond just listening and make sure your teens feel heard and supported.

Reason #11: Their parents downplay their feelings

When your teenagers are upset, the last thing they want to hear is, “Oh, it’s nothing to get upset about.”

So don’t dismiss or downplay your teens’ feelings. Doing so invalidates and minimizes issues that are important to your teens.

If this continues, your teens will eventually stop opening up to you.

Be there for your teens not only in the good times, but also in the tough times. It can be a great relief for teenagers to express anger, sadness, or frustration and know their parents will support them instead of judging them.

Reason #12: Their parents focus on rules and neglect the relationship

Every household needs rules to ensure everything runs smoothly. But making rules the focal point of everything is ineffective. It can also hurt your relationship with your teen.

For example, let’s say that you and your family have agreed to eat dinner together at 7pm. But your teen suddenly feels like eating earlier because she needs to work on an assignment. This isn’t the end of the world!

Yes, family time is important, but your teen also needs some flexibility. So you can discuss with her how you can work around this situation while still understanding the values that matter to your family.

As with many things, balance is key.

Conclusion

As a parent, there are a variety of ways to mend the relationship with your teen. So don’t lose hope!

Start by identifying which of the reasons listed in this article ring true for you and your teen. Then, put the relevant tips into practice to help your teen become less frustrated and resentful.

As you do this, you’ll bring out the best in your teen and strengthen the relationship too.

And if your teenager is also unmotivated or irresponsible, try my online course for parents of teens. It’s a step-by-step system called Transform Your Teen Today. It’s been proven to work, and it even comes with a 100% money-back guarantee!

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How to Overcome the Fear of Learning in 5 Steps

Updated on January 7, 2026 By Daniel Wong 5 Comments

Learning can be challenging at times – even scary.

But discovering how to manage that fear leads to growth, both as a student and a person.

If you’re looking for ways to overcome the fear of learning, you’re in the right place.

During childhood, resilience comes naturally. For example, toddlers learning to walk fall hundreds of times before they’re able to walk.

Yet they don’t give up and decide that they should just permanently go back to crawling.

Many students develop a fear of learning when they start taking tests and exams in school. The emphasis on getting good grades rather than on the process of learning can increase anxiety and stress in students.

It can begin to feel like the effort isn’t worth it. This is how the fear of learning can prevent students from pursuing meaningful goals and dreams.

This article will show you how to overcome this fear. Let’s begin by exploring how the fear of learning develops.

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Do you have a fear of learning?

Originating from the Greek word Sophia – meaning “wisdom” or “knowledge” – sophophobia is the fear of learning.

According to Healthline, a phobia is an excessive and irrational fear reaction. When confronted with the source of your fear, you may enter a state of panic and experience feelings of dread.

If you have a fear of learning, you may:

Feel uneasy before tests and exams
Lose focus when you’re studying
Feel uncomfortable about answering questions in class
Worry that you won’t be able to perform well academically

In addition to interfering with your studying, the fear of learning can affect your quality of life and future prospects.

Let’s break it down further to the fear of exams and the fear of studying. Let’s start with the fear of exams.

Fear of exams

Do you feel like you forget everything you’ve studied as soon as you sit down to take a test?

Or do exams make you feel nervous or even unwell?

When it comes to exams, students often place too much emphasis on the grade or outcome rather than the process. Feelings of overwhelm develop as the pressure builds, which can ruin your concentration during exams.

As expected, this gets in the way of being calm, present, and relaxed.

The key to overcoming the fear of exams is to shift your mindset. Focus on doing the things within your control: studying effectively, doing enough practice questions, getting enough rest, and eating right.

You can also learn how to relieve stress before a test so you can be a calmer, happier, and more successful student.

Focus on learning the necessary information and mastering the key concepts. Whatever the result, you’ll know you put in an excellent effort. From there, you can find ways to adjust your studying strategies to reduce your anxiety.

Fear of studying

As the exams approach, students become all too aware that they should be studying. For many students, this is when fear starts to build.

Sleep issues, unhealthy food choices, and stress can influence how focused you are when studying. These factors can also increase the negative emotional associations you have with studying.

Research shows that stressful experiences affect learning and memory processes. It’s common for cortisol – the stress hormone – to kick in when you have an important exam or deadline coming up.

Many students turn to avoidance as a coping mechanism. But the better approach is to take control of negative feelings by applying effective study strategies.

Start by identifying your bad study habits and changing them one by one.

How to overcome the fear of learning

Fear can be a motivator for success, but the key is to never let fear take control. You must take productive action despite the fear.

Here are the five steps to overcome the fear of learning:

1. Identify and understand the fear

To overcome the fear of learning, you must specifically identify what causes you to feel afraid.

Students often experience the fear of failure, fear of blanking out during exams, or fear of being unable to meet deadlines or expectations.

Take a step back so you can identify the fear, assess it, and determine what’s at the root of it.

2. Create a plan

Once you understand the fear, create a plan to work through it. This plan should be practical and actionable.

You can work with a coach or teacher to build your confidence and improve your study skills. Test-taking strategies can also help to ease your anxiety.

Write down a list of specific actions you plan to take. For example, you might decide that you will:

Read through your class notes once you get home from school every day
Do at least three practice tests/exams before every test/exam
Review all of your graded assignments
Make flashcards for specific subjects

When you focus on what you can control, you won’t feel as afraid.

3. Implement and refine the plan

When it comes to dealing with the fear of learning, you need to implement your plan and break it down into manageable chunks.

For example, if you have a biology exam coming up, you might decide that you’ll review all your class notes twice. You’ll also do three timed practice exams.

As you study, highlight anything you have questions about or need clarification on from your teacher. Change up the memory techniques that you use too.

Implement these strategies gradually to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

It’s also easier to avoid feeling overwhelmed if you do things in smaller chunks.

For example, if you have an upcoming math exam, you can start by choosing 15 practice questions for each topic that you’ll be tested on. Each time you get to work, choose just five practice questions and focus on completing them – don’t worry about the rest of the questions. You’ll get to them eventually during your upcoming study sessions.

4. Don’t be in a hurry

If you feel pressured to make many huge changes now, it will lead to underperformance. You may also find that your fear of learning has increased!

Give yourself time to put your plan into practice, and make progress at a comfortable pace. Set aside time each day to study, review your notes, and visualize yourself calmly taking the test.

Remember that school and life aren’t a competition. Put one step in front of the other, and you’ll eventually reach your destination without burning out.

5. Develop a process-oriented mindset

We all like rewards. In fact, you may have a routine in place where you give yourself a reward after completing each assignment.

There’s nothing wrong with using this approach once in a while. But if you overdo it, your intrinsic motivation will decrease because you’ll be too focused on the reward and the outcome.

Reframe your approach to focus on the process instead. Find joy in the process of learning and attaining mastery. When you acquire knowledge and understand concepts, be satisfied with the progress you’re making on your journey of education.

This is easier said than done, but it will pay off in the long run, both in terms of better grades and greater fulfillment.

To become more process-oriented, don’t tell yourself that something is “too hard.” Instead, tell yourself that it’s an opportunity to challenge yourself and grow.

As you change your thoughts and perspective, your fear of learning will diminish.

Conclusion

Fear is a normal and natural part of life.

But as the title of Susan Jeffers’ bestselling book recommends, we ought to feel the fear and do it anyway.

If you follow the 5 steps outlined in this article, you’ll be on your way to managing and overcoming your fear of learning.

Today’s the day to get started!

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How to Choose the Right Coach for Your Teen

Updated on December 24, 2025 By Daniel Wong Leave a Comment

Every teen needs guidance to navigate the challenges of adolescence.

But as a parent, you’ve probably noticed that your teen frequently rejects your guidance.

The more you tell your teen what choices he or she ought to make, the less likely your teen is to listen.

So what should you do?

Connect your teen with an experienced coach. A skilled coach and mentor can transform unmotivated teens into motivated and responsible young adults.

These positive changes can ease the tension in your relationship with your teen. For many parents, this is the biggest benefit of finding the right coach.

How should you choose the right coach for your teen?

Every teen has unique challenges to overcome and opportunities to make the most of. So it’s important to look for a coach who has the right combination of skills and experience to meet your teen’s needs.

Here’s what to do first…

Identify the goals to be achieved through coaching

When a coach works with teenagers, the focus isn’t usually just on academics. If school performance is a concern you have about your teenager, a holistic approach is most effective.

A coach can work with your teen to develop the intrinsic motivation needed to do well in school. A coach will also help your teenager to develop the mindset and practical skills necessary to thrive.

This process involves many aspects of development for your teen. So it helps to start your search for a coach by listing the main concerns you have about your teenager.

Think about the outcomes you want to achieve through the coaching sessions. Ask yourself questions like:

Why am I looking for a coach for my teen?
What do I want my teen to learn through the coaching sessions?
Which areas does my teen need the most guidance in?

Below are some common areas for improvement that I help my teenage coaching clients to make progress in:

Common area for improvement #1: Motivation

A lack of intrinsic motivation is a common but serious problem that many teenagers struggle with.

A coach can help teens to find the inner drive to learn and improve. As a result, these teenagers will be able to reach their full potential in school and life.

Common area for improvement #2: Responsibility

Do you think your teen sometimes behaves irresponsibly?

If so, you’re not alone.

Teens need to learn to make wise decisions, but the desire to do so has to come from within. A coach can help teens shift towards more responsible and mature behavior.

Common area for improvement #3: Sense of purpose

Many teenagers coast through life without a strong sense of purpose.

A lack of direction can lead to frustration for both teens and their parents. It’s difficult for many teens to understand how to make meaningful choices and lead a meaningful life.

At a time when they’re making important decisions about the future, a sense of purpose can guide your teen in the right direction.

A coach can help your teen to cultivate passion and live a life that’s founded on the right values.

Common area for improvement #4: Attitude and mindset

We all know how important it is to develop mental strength. But many teens lack the fortitude to overcome challenges and setbacks.

Coaching can enable teens to become more process-oriented and resilient. Instead of focusing too much on grades or achievement, they’ll learn to find joy in the process of attaining mastery.

As such, they’ll develop a more positive attitude toward school and other areas of life.

Common area for improvement #5: Respect

Respect for authority figures – especially parents – can be dramatically improved through coaching.

You’re probably already aware that teenagers’ disrespectful behavior can damage relationships and cause frustration for everyone involved.

The right coach can help your teen to understand the importance of respect, such that your teen will change his or her behavior for the better.

Common area for improvement #6: Time management

Coaching will equip your teenager with the skills needed to manage his or her time effectively.

Your teen will learn how to reduce procrastination and overcome distractions. Your teen will also learn how to stay organized and prioritize well.

These time management skills will benefit your teenager both in the short term and the long term!

Common area for improvement #7: Study skills

As a parent, you know it can sometimes be hard to get a teen to study.

Some teens lack the motivation to study, while others need more practical support. Coaching addresses both of these issues.

If your teenager doesn’t know how to study effectively, ensure that the coach you engage is able to teach study skills.

Here’s what to look for in a coach…

The right coach is uniquely qualified to guide teens to become motivated, confident, and responsible. The right coach empowers teens to thrive and to maximize their potential.

So what factors should you consider when looking for a coach for your teen?

1. Experience and background

Look for a coach who specializes in working with teens. Choose a coach who has experience working with teens who face similar problems as your teen.

2. Expertise

Take a look at the articles and books the coach has written, the videos the coach has published, the interviews the coach has done, the talks the coach has given, etc. These should demonstrate the coach’s knowledge and expertise.

3. Professional development

You’re looking to engage someone who will inspire your teen to grow and develop. So the coach you choose should be an example of someone who embraces lifelong learning. Coaches who continually strive to improve themselves are in the best position to mentor your teenager.

4. Proven results

Read the testimonials and success stories of the coach’s previous clients to see if the coach has a proven track record.

Questions to ask a potential coach

If you’ve found a coach for your teen who seems suitable, here are some questions to ask:

Question #1: What coaching methodology do you use?

Find out how the coach plans to guide your teen toward making positive changes.

What approaches or techniques does the coach use? What is his or her coaching philosophy? What makes his or her approach effective?

Question #2: Do you offer a trial session?

A trial session is a great way to see how well your teen and the coach get along. The better the connection, the more likely it is that your teen will benefit from the coaching sessions.

Question #3: What’s your availability like?

Given your teen’s schedule and commitments, does the coach have available slots to work with your teen? Can the coach start the sessions right away, or is there a waiting list?

Question #4: What’s the structure of the coaching sessions?

Here are some related questions:

What’s the recommended frequency of the coaching sessions?
How long is each session?
Will you provide periodic updates to the parents?
Do I pay for the sessions one at a time, or do you offer some kind of package?
What’s your refund policy?

Conclusion

No matter what challenges your teenager is facing, I hope you’re now convinced that he or she would benefit from coaching.

And after reading this article, I hope you also know how to choose the right coach for your teenager.

Over the past decade, I’ve spent many thousands of hours coaching teenagers 1-on-1. It brings me incredible joy to see my teenage coaching clients become motivated, confident, resilient, purpose-driven, and responsible!

To find out more about the 1-on-1 coaching program I offer for teenagers, visit this page. Or you can also click the link in the box below…

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