Are you worried that your children aren’t as motivated and hardworking as they should be?
It’s natural that parents want their children to succeed.
Through my work with students, I’ve realized just how much the parent-child relationship affects the child’s development, both emotionally and mentally.
No surprises there.
The stronger the relationship, the better the chances of the child becoming a well-adjusted, successful adult.
This article lists seven simple phrases that will help you to build that relationship.
The more often you use the phrases – I’m not asking you to repeat them every moment of every day, though! – the more likely it is that your child will grow up feeling safe, secure and self-confident. That’s the foundation of long-term success and happiness.
Here are the seven phrases:
1. “I love you”
This is an obvious but vital one.
Children need to know that you love and accept them unconditionally. You might feel awkward about saying “I love you” to your children, especially if it isn’t part of your family culture. But I encourage you to say it at least once a month. If you say it once a week or once a day, even better.
95% of the teenagers I work with confess to me that they feel as though their parents love them more when they perform well in school or in their other activities.
In extreme cases, these children grow up believing that they’ll never be good enough. This can cause them to be unmotivated, or to exhibit other behavioral problems.
The simple solution?
Say “I love you” to your children. Often.
2. “Go for it!”
Of course, if your children are about to do something dangerous or unethical, you shouldn’t tell them to “go for it.” You should step in. [Read more…]